Be kind. Right now, you could be driving beside someone, who is dealing with the worst news of their life. Be patient. Today, you could be waiting in line behind someone dealing with the end of a relationship, the loss of a love, the onset of a panic attack. Be aware. Be kind, over anything….this

The telephone rang.  It was a call from his mother. He answered it and his mother told him, “Mr.  Belser died last night.  The funeral is Wednesday.” Memories flashed through his mind like an old newsreel as he sat quietly remembering his childhood days. “Jack, did you hear me?” “Oh, sorry, Mom.  Yes, I heard

1. It is going to knock you sideways, the love you feel for that child. I smothered you in love every day you were alive but you will still be rocked to your roots when it hits you from the other side. I would say ‘be prepared’, but nothing, nothing, will prepare you for that

Today I reached my breaking point… For a moment or two I thought, this is it, I am finally broken. For a minute or two, I felt I couldn’t handle the load I’ve been given anymore. It’s too heavy. Wouldn’t it be so wonderfully tempting just to set that load down on the ground and

You Can’t Skip Chapters In Your Own Story… That’s not how it works. You have to face each page, each twist, each turn. You have to live out each and every chapter from the start to the end. Some of those chapters wont be pretty either.  You see, we each get our share of good

Hold Every Hug Just That Little Bit Longer… Listen to your loved ones just a little bit harder. Pay more attention to the small stuff, even when the to-do list is long. Life is short my friend. Don’t put off every invitation that scares you. Laugh out loudly and take the high ground whenever you

The World May Not like Bold Women… But I do. The world may not throw open its arms to those who carve their own path, tossing archaic beliefs to the wind, the wind they leave behind them as they forge bravely ahead. But I open my arms to those warrior sisters. Thank goodness for them

So you are aghast. You are disgusted at the disrespect, as a young married couple blaze a new trail for a new decade and simply refuse to accept the crappy hand you have dealt them. How very dare they stand up and say that actually, as advocates of good mental health and examples of an

Dear Meghan, For All Those Saying ‘You Knew What You Were Doing’… when you married a Royal. For all those saying, ‘this was her choice, she knew exactly what she was getting into.’ Remember that no one, not even you, knew exactly what you were doing and what you were getting into.  Life has a

Dear Harry, I am a mum of 2 boys… My eldest is the same age as you were when your beautiful Mummy died. I still cannot watch the footage of what you were forced to endure that day, it knocks the breath out of my lungs even now to imagine the depth of your pain.

My Child, I’m Not Here To Teach You I’m here to love you. Love will teach you. From the moment you came into being I have known that my all-consuming love would shelter you till the day I leave this planet, and even after that. When it comes to being a parent, I don’t have

When everyone is setting new goals, laying down new ground rules and striving to become a better version of themselves, some of us are fighting to survive each day… You see, December is a month of giving, and some of us come January, are completely and utterly spent. A month of remembering everyone, and remembering

This year, the best that I can say, is that I made it through.  I stayed hopeful, I mended my broken pieces each time they shattered. I took deep breaths, pushed my shoulders back and faced my worries head on. I spent a lot of time reeling from the punches life threw at me… but

Last week I found out my child has Autism. And now I need to say it out loud. Really loudly, until the sound of the word no longer takes my breath away. I mean, I’m a mother, deep down I knew. Of course I did. But I was often convinced, by myself and others, (

You’re Going To Come Across A Lot Of Very Stressed People This Week… And some of them will be at breaking point. This season comes with so much joy and light but for many, it is a time of real darkness and pain. For those grieving the loss of a loved one; that celebration with

This Year Has Been Hard… I’m not going to lie. It has whipped the rug from under me more than once – and a few times, I felt I couldn’t go on anymore. This year has been hard. But I’m here. I’m broken but I’m not out yet.  I can feel my pieces coming back

How many times have you thought, I can’t get through this. How many times have you thought, I’m not strong enough to win the battle this time. How many times have you felt so broken, you thought the sun would never rise again. And yet, here you are. Here you are, through it.  Here you

Yes You have Been Broken But you won’t stay shattered for ever my friend. You will scrape those little shards of your soul from the floor and pull them all together to rebuild, better than before. Stronger. But this time there will be cracks… and that is how the light will get in. And you

To My No Fuss Friend Thank you for understanding that life is faster than I am… That, in my mind’s eye, we would hang out so much more often. Thank you, for not passive-aggressively berating me, each time I fail to return a text or answer a call…and for always allowing me to just dive

No matter how much someone stamps all over your heart, your loyalty, your kind nature.  Never, ever let them make you ugly. For beauty comes from within my friend and nothing, nothing, turns a soul more sour than bitterness, hate and regret. Let them throw whatever they want at you, if they must, then retreat. 

You Can Do Anything But Not Everything You can do anything but not everything. You can be happy and still so sad. You can want to spend time with your friends but need to stay home alone. You can be kind and feel wronged. You can be tired but endlessly, helplessly awake You can be

When someone is broken, don’t try to fix them (you can’t). Show them instead, how the cracks in their armour let the light shine through. That’s how it gets in. When someone is grieving, don’t attempt to fill the hole in their heart (you can’t). Instead, remind them why the love they had for that

Listen very closely to those little feelings that start in your tummy and try very hard to be heard.  They are the voices of those who watch you.  They are your guardian angels doing their thing. Pay attention to the hairs that bristle on the back of your neck.  For when that happens, you have

When your head hits the pillow tonight Remember the smiles of the day, the laughter, the warm words… And let everything else go. Put the lessons learned in a file marked ‘done’ and give yourself a pat on the back for the things you got right. Leave the stresses of tomorrow where they belong –

Maybe they’re not being selfish. Maybe they’re struggling to cope. Perhaps, the reason they didn’t show up, was not because you’re not important enough, but because they felt they were not important enough. Perhaps the reason they didn’t reply, is because they are way too deep, in the depths of a suffocating depression that they

Some are sent to teach you what love is. Some are sent to teach you what love most definitely isn’t… Some are sent to support you without bias, and those you must hold very dear indeed. Others are sent to challenge your self-worth, never let them win. Some people are taken far too soon and

Great memories are made when you let go, feel the freedom and drink in the beauty of the moment. 2. Happy memories are not dependant on the size of your swimsuit or how much cellulite you have. 3. Talking of the above, nobody ever notices yours, they are too busy worrying about their own ‘flaws’.

I’m sorry. If I said the wrong thing, or said nothing at all when I should have said something meaningful… I’m sorry. If I failed to make you smile or turned up late or didn’t show up at all… I’m sorry. If I didn’t reply to your message or chose the wrong words when I

When my kids are grown and out in the world, I want to be that house… the one where everyone travels back to. The house where everyone feels at home and joy is bursting out of the windows and doors. Where a problem shared is a problem halved. The house that rings with laughter, music

If you think that the days, months and years will somehow erase the extent of the loss, then you have never been unlucky enough to lose a love. You are blessed, my friend. For life without that piece of you, is a new life indeed. It is a new world when the person you miss

This I know. And yes it’s hard for you to believe that right now, so wrapped up in the dark you have become.  But believe me, it’s true. Your happy days are coming and they will blow your mind.  How do I know this? Because this, my darling girl, is life.  Life is hard. And

Some days she can’t begin to imagine how she will get through, but every single day she makes it to the other side. She listens, she cares, she gives, she works, she ploughs her way through an endless list of tasks, an endless list of people who need her. And finally, when the sun has

Dear Friend, Thank you for seeing the good in me, when I could not. Thank you for reminding me to laugh, when I had forgotten how. Thank you for the times you spent listening to my worries, my fears, my insecurities. Thank you, most of all, for never getting weary of all that. Thank you

  You are always ‘allowed’ to leave… A date, a job, a relationship, an argument, an uncomfortable situation… Wherever you are, however deafening the silent, societal pressure is – you are always allowed to leave. Having boundaries is important, it’s just as important as having courage, being kind and being loved. If you have no

1. A good bra, preferably one for simply feeling beautiful in and one that makes you feel ready to take on the world. They are rarely the same thing, unfortunately. 2. A loyal girl friend. A like-minded soul who sees your worth when you have lost sight of it. Nothing else is particularly required of

And I was busy… but busy in a way only a few would perhaps understand. I was busy being kind to myself when the day had hit me harder than expected. I was busy being quiet when the world around me had become too much, too much noise and bustle to bear. I was busy

There was a time, when I would have crossed oceans to reach people, who wouldn’t cross a stream for me. There was a time, when I would try, too hard, to be seen by those, who would simply never see me. There was a time, when I felt myself unworthy, of a person, who could

  It doesn’t mean that you failed, or went wrong somewhere along your way. It simply means that you value yourself enough, to want the very best in life. To want to feel those endorphins. To want to experience that peace of mind. To want to embrace being happy in your own skin. It’s okay

  To finally let go of the past. To finally realise I am enough, just the way I am. To finally feel whole, at peace and ready for anything good that may choose to come my way. On the stroke of midnight 2018, a new chapter in my book will begin. And I will be

The need to make people like me.  The right people instinctively will like me, if I like myself. The question next year, will be do I like them? The need to be perfect and never fail. It’s exhausting and I am done. I make mistakes. Sometimes I win, sometimes I lose. That’s me and that’s

THIS YEAR HAS ALMOST GONE… Not everyone made it through.  Not everyone survived and not everyone is facing 2020 with a festive heart. Some tables are set with one place missing. And that hurts like hell. But life goes on. We all must go on. What choice do we have? And if we can take

You Can’t Dance In The Rain If You Are Drowning… ‘Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass, it’s about learning to dance in the rain.’ So they say. But what if the storms have been coming down so hard, for so long that you’re sinking like a rock in a pond? What then?

Don’t Let Thoughts Of Monday Steal Your Sunday Don’t let worries for tomorrow, steal today. Worrying is a waste of a good imagination. What happens will happen anyway. You see my friend, if we could forget what has gone before and go forth without fear of failure, without memories of rejection and without care for

This Is Your Sunday Evening Reminder… That people can be cruel and selfish sometimes, but that doesn’t mean you have to be. Don’t sink to their level, keep rising in this life, you’re aiming much higher than they are. Don’t look down. That life is a rollercoaster for everyone, not just you. Some chapters are

One day she woke up different. She woke up with a purpose that didn’t depend on pleasing other people. She woke up with a burning desire to strip back her life of anything that didn’t bring her joy. She was done with comparison. She was over perfection. She realised that anything which cost her her