Today I’ve Been Thinking About Caroline Flack

Caroline flack/ self isolation

I’ve been thinking how she was in a kind of lock-down. 

She was told to stay out of the public eye until the court case, she wasn’t allowed to see her partner and basically was advised to self-isolate until her nightmare ended.

But she didn’t make it till the end.

Because the isolation, the stress and the fear were too much for her to bear.

I guess what I’m trying to say is, that the vulnerable and the weak are at risk here but those amongst us who suffer from depression, anxiety and poor mental heath are too.

So, whilst we are all coming together (virtually only of course) to try and protect the needy, let’s also check in on those who are prone to bouts of depression.

This will be tough on them.

This chapter in our stories will be one we won’t forget, let’s make it for the right reasons.

Don’t Miss Me More Than Once A Day

Don’t miss me more than once a day,

For life is moving fast.

Don’t wish all of your time away,

Dreaming of the past.

Don’t waste the moment looking at,

The things I left behind me.

I’m not within those walls or boxes

The heart is where you’ll find me.

Don’t dread to say my name, sweet one,

Don’t fear the wrath of sadness.

Just take the love you had for me,

And turn it into gladness.

Don’t worry when my birthday comes

Don’t feel me missing more.

I’m filled with love you’re sending me,

Just as I was before.

Some days your anger will rush out,

Your tears will find their way.

To me, wherever I am then.

I’ll soothe them all away.

When I am gone don’t miss me more,

Than once, or twice a day.

There’s so much life to live, my love.

I’m with you, all the way.

Donna Ashworth

Instead of asking people to ‘reach out’, how about we vow to ‘reach in’…

Suicide awareness/ be kind/ reach out/ talk

You see, the thing is, people who can see no way out, people who are so very low that life no longer feels worth living, don’t want to reach out.

They want to hide.

They want the pain to stop.

They want to be alone so that they can put an end to their suffering.

They don’t want to talk anymore, the talking is over by then.

They want to go.

So how do we stop this?

We reach in...

Over and over.

Before it has reached this point.

With love.

With messages of friends saying hello.

With stories of inspirational people to emulate.

With healthy food, hugs, favourite music, funny clips and company.

No pressure to talk.

If the door isn’t opened to us we ring the bell the next day and the next, we send messages, we write cards, we try and try until we can try no more.

Trust your instincts too, a beautiful smile can hide so much inner turmoil.

The truth is that people who feel valued, who feel worthwhile, who feel supported, can weather the hardest of storms, for the most part.

And if they can’t, if their suffering is too intense, you haven’t failed or wasted time, you did your best.

And love was given.

And that, at the end of the day, is all that matters.

Let’s all vow, today, to start ‘reaching in’ more.

We are all in this together

Donna Ashworth 

I Don’t Have Trust Issues, I Just Saw You Coming..

I don’t have trust issues…

I have experience.

I have instincts.

I have the gift of hindsight, ‘once bitten twice shyed’ and ‘been there done that.’

You see, I can now spot certain behavioural patterns coming. 

A mile off.

And I don’t dislike myself enough anymore to go there again.

And if I try to steer you oh to the right path and you turn it back on me…

I see you.

I don’t have trust issues.

I just saw you coming.

Consider It Like Getting Your Vaccinations…

Your body has a really clever way of looking after itself.

When you’re hit by a bug or a virus, your amazing immune system sends out little cells to photograph that particular bacteria as your body struggles to defeat it. The next time it comes along, it’s recognised and defeated in a fraction of the time using the lessons previously learned.

Cool right?

Your soul also has the same system going on. 

Except, instead of silent cells zipping around doing their thing, it’s a silent voice that calls out to you from deep within.

That little inner voice that niggles away at you sometimes…

When you meet someone you’ve seen the likes of before.

When you do something that ended badly in the past.

When you trust someone again who already let you down pretty badly.

Listen to that inner voice.

It’s there for a reason.

Consider it like getting your vaccinations in.

For your heart. 

And your soul. 

For your peace.

Donna Ashworth


Every woman hits a moment in their day, their week, their life, where they think they just can’t go on another step.

When they think they have taken more than they can bear.

When they fear, they’ve taken on more than they can cope with, bitten off more than they can chew.

The feeling is like a panic fluttering around inside your chest searching for a way out and the waves are overwhelming.

Literally overwhelming.

When that moment hits you, my friend, I want you to remember this…


You are a woman.

You can.

And you will.

And you do.


It is your superpower.

The ability to just show up and




Because we have to. And so we do…

Some days you don’t know how you will do it – but every single day, it gets done.

YOU get it done.


But, whilst you continue to swim through the waves of chaos around you, remember also that this comes at a price, this ability. It costs you, every time you heave yourself up from the mire and put one foot in front of the other.

So look after yourself, be kind. Don’t judge yourself too harshly.

You’re a warrior, after all.

A fighter.

Rest sometimes.

Your battles will wait for you and you will always get it done.

From one woman to another…

you got this.

Because women just get it done/ women supporting women/ you got this

Donna Ashworth

If You Are Not Dying, Or Wishing To Die…

Then I Pray That You Are Living Your Life To The Full, my Friend.
The way I see it, there are 3 groups of people on this planet…
…Those who want to stay alive – who really want to live, but who are fighting a losing battle against a disease or a situation they cannot control.
…Those who are physically in decent health but who desperately want to die, to escape the pain in their minds and their hearts.
…And the rest of us.
We lost someone today. Someone wonderful, someone kind, someone loving and warm.
He didn’t want to go.
He fought so hard.
He wasn’t ready and he was too young, much too young.
He had everything to live for.
But it was not his choice.
So, I guess what I am trying to say, on this average Monday, is that…if you are lucky enough to be in the latter group; to have decent physical and mental health for the most part. Then I beg you, be grateful.
See each day for the gift that it is and please, don’t let the mundane things cloud your vision.
Look at everything around you and never strop marvelling at life and its intricacies. At the power of love.
Life is beautiful. It is precious.
Worry is a waste of time and imagination, fear is an illusion and material things mean nothing.
Money can’t buy you a cure to cancer or a peaceful mind. This we truly know.
You have all you need to live your life and live it well.
Do it.
For God’s sake do it now.


If You Don’t Like Having Your Photograph Taken…


Here’s the thing –

It doesn’t matter.

They are not for you. Not right now anyway.

THEY ARE FOR YOU in 20 years, 30 years – and trust me you will treasure and marvel at each and every single one.

Even the ones you hate today.

In years to come, every picture will amaze you and you will be so very grateful for the forgotten, precious memories they bring back.


THEY ARE ALSO FOR YOUR DAUGHTER, who may be struggling slightly with her own body image or self-esteem one day and who may be comforted and inspired by looking at the same body shapes on you.

And she will see it then as being so much more beautiful on you, because that’s the way of the female eye, everything looks better on someone else – especially someone you love.

So let her see. 


THEY ARE FOR YOUR FAMILY and their family and generations to come and they will tell the story of your life. So don’t edit them too much. Keep them real.

They are your book.

They are so much more important than whether or not your hair is right or you feel good that day.

so, my friends, get the picture taken.

Every time.

You will be so glad you did.

If you don’t like yourself in photographs....take the picture

To my Friends, If Anything Ever Happens To Me


If Anything Ever Happens To Me….
Don’t visit me at my grave.

I’m not there.

Visit my loves; I know for sure that is where I will be.
Wherever they are.

Do not cover my headstone in flowers and tears.

Instead, go to them and make them smile, for they may just have forgotten how to.

They may need reminding life is full of love, full of good, full of joy.

Please do that for me.

When I cannot.

Please hold them close.
Please make them smile.
Please stay until you hear a laugh.
Then come back soon.

Tell them they are wonderful.
Tell them they are loved.
Tell them they are forever protected.

Help them believe in me.
For I will be there.

If anything ever happens to me, do not visit me at my grave, my wonderful friends.

I’m not there.

I am with my loves.

I hope you will be there too.

To my Friends, If Anything Ever Happens To Me


Let’s remove the stigma, together, here and now!

Too many people are being lost to us.

Following on from the terrible news yesterday, that designer Kate Spade hung herself, leaving behind a 13 year old daughter, it needs to be now.

You see, too many people see medication as a ‘fail’, I have heard SO MANY TIMES ‘You know she is on Anti-depressants don’t you?’ – said as though it is some sort of weakness or bad decision.

It is a great decision.

I have heard SO MANY TIMES ‘I just don’t want her to go down THAT route.’ Again, as though it is a path to destruction.

It is a path to resurrection.

It means you are acknowledging your issues and DEALING with them.

It should be one of the first resorts, not the last, alongside meditation, counselling and some cognitive/relaxation techniques.

They are all tools to fight mental illness.

You wouldn’t try to fight heart disease without tools – or cancer.

Mental illness is the same.

I am not saying it is THE answer, I am saying it is an option – and it helps – and most importantly, THERE SHOULD BE NO SHAME IN IT!!!

Just like there should be no shame in having pain relief during labour.

We are all so consumed with looking like we ‘have it together’ that we are afraid to reveal our ‘weaknesses’.

Mental illness, depression, ptsd, pnd, anxiety, whatever it is that’s troubling you – is not a weakness or a fault, we should not feel ashamed nor should we feel it will go against our career choices or future pursuits.

Taking medication will not ‘dumb down’ the real you, quite the opposite. It will ‘dumb down’ your mental health issues, allowing the real you to come back in.

It need not be permanent.

It need not feel like a failure.

It is a part of your journey, of your cure, of your life.

And that’s okay. It really is.

If you are struggling, alone, please remember this:


Turn on the light.

Let’s talk about it.

Ladies, pass it on


In a world where everything is fake and filtered.

In a world where where our young generation idolises anyone who can master the art of this fakery.

In a world where ‘celebrities’ are famous, for nothing other than how they look or what they wear/use to create these illusions.

In a world where where our little girls, and boys, are being blinded by ‘role models’ so seemingly ‘perfect’, they are not remotely real at all…

Be this girl.

Or at least let this girl be the change.

She knew the world was watching, THE WORLD.

And guess what, she showed up looking exactly like herself.

Doesn’t matter If you didn’t like her dress, if it was too plain.

If her make up was too ‘natural’ as I have heard so many say.

She is beautiful, no doubt about that.

But also pretty brave not to try and deliver the masses what they were waiting for; elaborate hair, perfect make-up, a stunning, never-to-be-forgotten dress…

We will all forget her dress instantly, I can’t even tell you about her hair or make-up, it was so forgettable…

What we will remember is – how confident, how elegant and how stunning she was.

Quite simply, she believes in herself because she knows she is much more than a face.

Let this be the new trend.

Ladies, pass it on…



In the last week we have lost three male celebrities to suicide or self-destruct.

Much loved, talented people.

Bright shining stars.

In fact, suicide is the single biggest killer of men aged under 45…75% of all suicides on this country are male. These statistics are shocking right?

It doesn’t have to be that way…


Today, I look at Ant Mcpartlin and I worry.

I worry that his misdemeanour has angered so many, that he may never see a way back.

I look at the lines of shame, misery and fear etched across his face and I worry.

I worry because, even as the nation’s favourite, he was still engulfed in his own darkness – so what will become of him now that he is disgraced?

How dark will his world be now?

Yes he f**ked up. He is human. He has flaws. Giant ones.

We all do.

Yes he could have hurt someone, thank fully he didn’t

This is a man who needs our support.

He has made us laugh for many a year, now we need him to see that flawed doesn’t mean unloveable.


By doing this we will show others who are suffering that there is never NOT a way back.


It is never too late to get your shit together.

We are all in this together people, suicide is taking too many of our men. Let it start to stop NOW.





Money can’t buy me.

Teachers can’t teach me.

I am hope.

I am to be found in the darkest of darkness.

In the bleakest of places.

In the moments when there is nothing left to lose and nowhere to turn.

I am hope.

When you just cannot see how tomorrow will come.

That is when you will find me.

And I will bring you light.

I am hope.

I have moved mountains.

I have won wars.

I have saved nations, crossed borders and built empires.

I am hope.

Most of all I have brought comfort.

So much comfort.

When you cannot see the way, reach for me.

I will come.

I am hope.

I am hope, always have hope
Donna Ashworth
“I am hope’

You will never know the value of a moment, until it becomes a memory….


Take the picture.
Share the picture.
Spread the joy.
Cherish the memories.
Tell the stories.
Book the holiday.
Buy the shoes.
Eat the cake.
Let it go.
Embrace the adventure.
Say the words.
Make the phone call.
Sod the haters.
Let them talk.
Write your story.
Sing your song.
Dance your dance.
Say I love you.
Say it again.
And again.
Never stop.

You will never know the value of a moment, until it becomes a memory....




Don’t waste your strength, holding on too tight
To things that frustrate, or just don’t feel right.

If something that once brought you great gladness
Is suddenly filling your life with great sadness.

And someone you love who won’t treat you right
Is stealing your peace in the dark of the night.

Then really there is only one thing to do
Loosen your grip on the string that binds you.

For in this short life you will learn one great truth
The things that you loved in the flush of your youth…

Can look much less lovely with the passing of years
Without the smoked veil of your worries and fears.

To fly very high you must cut off some weight
And soar with the birds, it’s never too late.

How do you do it, well really it’s easy
If it’s holding you back, release and go freely.




I have happy happy memories of laughing with friends until the tears flowed.


I have the marks of my frustration and confusion – of which I battled through – smiling in the end.


I have shimmering highlights of wisdom, dashed throughout my hair.


I have symbols of the strength I was able to find, when life got tough.


I have the marks of growth and the marks of motherhood. My tiger stripes of love.


I have the evidence of a life filled with abundance, blessings and good times.


I have a mind so full of stories, memories and moments there is scarce room to hold much else.


I am blessed – with a life of great length – something not everyone can say.


Donna Ashworth

LPIO 2018

Don’t change the way you look, change the way you see/ I don’t have grey hair I have wisdom hghlights


We have all likely experienced the closed facebook group by now and chances are, like me, you have been aghast at what goes on within…

It’s as though the creator of The group is the sheriff, the admins are her officers and the rules of the land are made up on a daily basis with everyone having to comply or it’s ‘reach for your gun time’. ThIS GROUP AIN’T BIG ENOUGH FOR THE BOTH OF US…etc etc.

It normally starts off beautifully, with everyone posting questions and receiving great answers or compliments which compel them to exclaim “I love this group!’, “SO GLAD I FOUND YOU GUYS!”.

It is not long until the admins wade in with some rules about ‘what the topics we are allowed to post about are’ and someone (who has been an adult for sometime and doesn’t take very well to being told what to do or say), takes exception.

If you haven’t witnessed a ‘gate’, a ‘flounce’ or worse a ‘deletion of a disgruntled member’ then you have it all ahead of you yet. It will happen, trust me.

It all comes down to the fact that people feel anonymous within these groups because they are ‘closed’. Their friends cannot see what they are up to so they let themselves go a little bit…in some cases this would involve posting photos of themselves and receiving lots of compliments on their fashion choices – not something they would do on their normal timeline. Likewise, their responses to people who don’t say the right things go the same way. Out of character.

The freedom of being able to vent without judgement from ‘real life peers’ is intoxicating and some and things can get pretty ugly.

I am currently watching a group I have joined implode on a daily basis and I have to say it’s fascinating. Sad but mesmerising.

It was the BEST place to be for a few weeks with everyone cheerleading everyone and compliments and encouragement flying all over the show.
In come the admins with a few rules to follow (it’s their group after all) and bam, someone kicks off every hour of every day and it’s all tumbling to the ground.

The thing people don’t realise is that yes these groups are closed but everything – and I mean everything you do online, is all part of your online footprint. It is all completely and entirely traceable and accessible and one day, people who really do get ugly and really do attack, will be held accountable for their actions.

It is coming mark my words.

The internet is like The Wild West right now with everyone doing what they like but change is a ‘comin.

So, whatever you do online, be nice or if you can’t be nice at least be respectful. Or even better, stay quiet.

Imagine that person is stood right in front of you – now type your response.

Remember, the real beauty of these groups is that YOU CAN LEAVE AT ANY TIME IF YOU DON’T LIKE IT.
It is not real life.

I considered opening such a group for us all to chat about life but recent events have put me off!

Let me hear your thoughts on this ladies!



It was with a heavy heart that I read yesterday’s news of another young girl who felt there was no option other than to end it all.

A young girl bullied so relentlessly online, that she saw no other way out.

Days before she carried out the ultimate sacrifice, 14 year old Amy Everett, otherwise known as ‘Dolly’ drew a picture and captioned it with the powerful phrase ‘Speak even if your voice shakes’ which her family are now determined to make into a worldwide campaign to help police, identify and end online abuse.


The beautiful young Australian was a former poster-girl for Akubra Hats and loved fiercely by all who knew her, yet that was not enough to over-ride the merciless taunting. If even one young person is saved by this campaign then it will be worth every second and every single share will count

Her father wrote:

Akubra hat girl dolly’s father wrote- speak even if your voice shakes

It may be too late to save this beautiful young woman, with the whole world at her feet, but we can start now to save others like her.



It is NOT okay to say anything nasty or personal on any form of social media and especially when an identity is hidden.

It is abuse, it is bullying, it must end.

We are entering a seemingly new era in many ways with the #metoo campaign and the #itstime campaign. This one is just as, if not even more, important.

Our youngsters are NOT emotionally developed enough to deal with such vileness and personal attack – we made the internet, we made social media yet we are failing to protect them.

Please help by PASSING IT ON

Dolly was once the poster girl for a well-known hat company



We are all talking about it, now here is the official transcript – enjoy, be inspired and don’t forget to pass it on…

In 1964, I was a little girl sitting on the linoleum floor of my mother’s house in Milwaukee watching Anne Bancroft present the Oscar for best actor at the 36th Academy Awards. She opened the envelope and said five words that literally made history: “The winner is Sidney Poitier.” Up to the stage came the most elegant man I had ever seen. I remember his tie was white, and of course his skin was black, and I had never seen a black man being celebrated like that. I tried many, many times to explain what a moment like that means to a little girl, a kid watching from the cheap seats as my mom came through the door bone tired from cleaning other people’s houses. But all I can do is quote and say that the explanation in Sidney’s performance in “Lilies of the Field”:
“Amen, amen, amen, amen.”
In 1982, Sidney received the Cecil B. DeMille award right here at the Golden Globes and it is not lost on me that at this moment, there are some little girls watching as I become the first black woman to be given this same award. It is an honor — it is an honor and it is a privilege to share the evening with all of them and also with the incredible men and women who have inspired me, who challenged me, who sustained me and made my journey to this stage possible. Dennis Swanson who took a chance on me for “A.M. Chicago.” Quincy Jones who saw me on that show and said to Steven Spielberg, “Yes, she is Sophia in ‘The Color Purple.'” Gayle who has been the definition of what a friend is, and Stedman who has been my rock — just a few to name.
I want to thank the Hollywood Foreign Press Association because we all know the press is under siege these days. We also know it’s the insatiable dedication to uncovering the absolute truth that keeps us from turning a blind eye to corruption and to injustice. To — to tyrants and victims, and secrets and lies. I want to say that I value the press more than ever before as we try to navigate these complicated times, which brings me to this: what I know for sure is that speaking your truth is the most powerful tool we all have. And I’m especially proud and inspired by all the women who have felt strong enough and empowered enough to speak up and share their personal stories. Each of us in this room are celebrated because of the stories that we tell, and this year we became the story.
But it’s not just a story affecting the entertainment industry. It’s one that transcends any culture, geography, race, religion, politics, or workplace. So I want tonight to express gratitude to all the women who have endured years of abuse and assault because they, like my mother, had children to feed and bills to pay and dreams to pursue. They’re the women whose names we’ll never know. They are domestic workers and farm workers. They are working in factories and they work in restaurants and they’re in academia, engineering, medicine, and science. They’re part of the world of tech and politics and business. They’re our athletes in the Olympics and they’re our soldiers in the military.
And there’s someone else, Recy Taylor, a name I know and I think you should know, too. In 1944, Recy Taylor was a young wife and mother walking home from a church service she’d attended in Abbeville, Alabama, when she was abducted by six armed white men, raped, and left blindfolded by the side of the road coming home from church. They threatened to kill her if she ever told anyone, but her story was reported to the NAACP where a young worker by the name of Rosa Parks became the lead investigator on her case and together they sought justice. But justice wasn’t an option in the era of Jim Crow. The men who tried to destroy her were never persecuted. Recy Taylor died ten days ago, just shy of her 98th birthday. She lived as we all have lived, too many years in a culture broken by brutally powerful men. For too long, women have not been heard or believed if they dare speak the truth to the power of those men. But their time is up. Their time is up.
Their time is up. And I just hope — I just hope that Recy Taylor died knowing that her truth, like the truth of so many other women who were tormented in those years, and even now tormented, goes marching on. It was somewhere in Rosa Parks’ heart almost 11 years later, when she made the decision to stay seated on that bus in Montgomery, and it’s here with every woman who chooses to say, “Me too.” And every man — every man who chooses to listen.
In my career, what I’ve always tried my best to do, whether on television or through film, is to say something about how men and women really behave. To say how we experience shame, how we love and how we rage, how we fail, how we retreat, persevere and how we overcome. I’ve interviewed and portrayed people who’ve withstood some of the ugliest things life can throw at you, but the one quality all of them seem to share is an ability to maintain hope for a brighter morning, even during our darkest nights. So I want all the girls watching here, now, to know that a new day is on the horizon! And when that new day finally dawns, it will be because of a lot of magnificent women, many of whom are right here in this room tonight, and some pretty phenomenal men, fighting hard to make sure that they become the leaders who take us to the time when nobody ever has to say “Me too” again.

Oprah Winfrey speech golden globes
This image released by NBC




The full and heart-breaking final letter from 27 year old Holly Butcher…released by her parents the day after she passed away with a rare form of cancer…we all need to read this.

A bit of life advice from Hol:

It’s a strange thing to realise and accept your mortality at 26 years young. It’s just one of those things you ignore. The days tick by and you just expect they will keep on coming; Until the unexpected happens. I always imagined myself growing old, wrinkled and grey- most likely caused by the beautiful family (lots of kiddies) I planned on building with the love of my life. I want that so bad it hurts.

That’s the thing about life; It is fragile, precious and unpredictable and each day is a gift, not a given right.

I’m 27 now. I don’t want to go. I love my life. I am happy.. I owe that to my loved ones. But the control is out of my hands.

I haven’t started this ‘note before I die’ so that death is feared – I like the fact that we are mostly ignorant to it’s inevitability.. Except when I want to talk about it and it is treated like a ‘taboo’ topic that will never happen to any of us.. That’s been a bit tough. I just want people to stop worrying so much about the small, meaningless stresses in life and try to remember that we all have the same fate after it all so do what you can to make your time feel worthy and great, minus the bullshit.

I have dropped lots of my thoughts below as I have had a lot of time to ponder life these last few months. Of course it’s the middle of the night when these random things pop in my head most!

Those times you are whinging about ridiculous things (something I have noticed so much these past few months), just think about someone who is really facing a problem. Be grateful for your minor issue and get over it. It’s okay to acknowledge that something is annoying but try not to carry on about it and negatively effect other people’s days.

Once you do that, get out there and take a freaking big breath of that fresh Aussie air deep in your lungs, look at how blue the sky is and how green the trees are; It is so beautiful. Think how lucky you are to be able to do just that – breathe.

You might have got caught in bad traffic today, or had a bad sleep because your beautiful babies kept you awake, or your hairdresser cut your hair too short. Your new fake nails might have got a chip, your boobs are too small, or you have cellulite on your arse and your belly is wobbling.

Let all that shit go.. I swear you will not be thinking of those things when it is your turn to go. It is all SO insignificant when you look at life as a whole. I’m watching my body waste away right before my eyes with nothing I can do about it and all I wish for now is that I could have just one more Birthday or Christmas with my family, or just one more day with my partner and dog. Just one more.

I hear people complaining about how terrible work is or about how hard it is to exercise – Be grateful you are physically able to. Work and exercise may seem like such trivial things … until your body doesn’t allow you to do either of them.

I tried to live a healthy life, in fact, that was probably my major passion. Appreciate your good health and functioning body- even if it isn’t your ideal size. Look after it and embrace how amazing it is. Move it and nourish it with fresh food. Don’t obsess over it.

Remember there are more aspects to good health than the physical body.. work just as hard on finding your mental, emotional and spiritual happiness too. That way you might realise just how insignificant and unimportant having this stupidly portrayed perfect social media body really is.. While on this topic, delete any account that pops up on your news feeds that gives you any sense of feeling shit about yourself. Friend or not.. Be ruthless for your own well-being.

Be grateful for each day you don’t have pain and even the days where you are unwell with man flu, a sore back or a sprained ankle, accept it is shit but be thankful it isn’t life threatening and will go away.

Whinge less, people! .. And help each other more.

Give, give, give. It is true that you gain more happiness doing things for others than doing them for yourself. I wish I did this more. Since I have been sick, I have met the most incredibly giving and kind people and been the receiver of the most thoughtful and loving words and support from my family, friends and strangers; More than I could I ever give in return. I will never forget this and will be forever grateful to all of these people.

It is a weird thing having money to spend at the end.. when you’re dying. It’s not a time you go out and buy material things that you usually would, like a new dress. It makes you think how silly it is that we think it is worth spending so much money on new clothes and ‘things’ in our lives.

Buy your friend something kind instead of another dress, beauty product or jewellery for that next wedding. 1. No-one cares if you wear the same thing twice 2. It feels good. Take them out for a meal, or better yet, cook them a meal. Shout their coffee. Give/ buy them a plant, a massage or a candle and tell them you love them when you give it to them.

Value other people’s time. Don’t keep them waiting because you are shit at being on time. Get ready earlier if you are one of those people and appreciate that your friends want to share their time with you, not sit by themselves, waiting on a mate. You will gain respect too! Amen sister.

This year, our family agreed to do no presents and despite the tree looking rather sad and empty (I nearly cracked Christmas Eve!), it was so nice because people didn’t have the pressure of shopping and the effort went into writing a nice card for each other. Plus imagine my family trying to buy me a present knowing they would probably end up with it themselves.. strange! It might seem lame but those cards mean more to me than any impulse purchase could. Mind you, it was also easier to do in our house because we had no little kiddies there. Anyway, moral of the story- presents are not needed for a meaningful Christmas. Moving on.

Use your money on experiences.. Or at least don’t miss out on experiences because you spent all your money on material shit.

Put in the effort to do that day trip to the beach you keep putting off. Dip your feet in the water and dig your toes in the sand. Wet your face with salt water.

Get amongst nature.

Try just enjoying and being in moments rather than capturing them through the screen of your phone. Life isn’t meant to be lived through a screen nor is it about getting the perfect photo.. enjoy the bloody moment, people! Stop trying to capture it for everyone else.

Random rhetorical question. Are those several hours you spend doing your hair and make up each day or to go out for one night really worth it? I’ve never understood this about females 🤔.

Get up early sometimes and listen to the birds while you watch the beautiful colours the sun makes as it rises.

Listen to music.. really listen. Music is therapy. Old is best.

Cuddle your dog. Far out, I will miss that.

Talk to your friends. Put down your phone. Are they doing okay?

Travel if it’s your desire, don’t if it’s not.

Work to live, don’t live to work.

Seriously, do what makes your heart feel happy.

Eat the cake. Zero guilt.

Say no to things you really don’t want to do.

Don’t feel pressured to do what other people might think is a fulfilling life.. you might want a mediocre life and that is so okay.

Tell your loved ones you love them every time you get the chance and love them with everything you have.

Also, remember if something is making you miserable, you do have the power to change it – in work or love or whatever it may be. Have the guts to change. You don’t know how much time you’ve got on this earth so don’t waste it being miserable. I know that is said all the time but it couldn’t be more true.

Anyway, that’s just this one young gals life advice. Take it or leave it, I don’t mind!

Oh and one last thing, if you can, do a good deed for humanity (and myself) and start regularly donating blood. It will make you feel good with the added bonus of saving lives. I feel like it is something that is so overlooked considering every donation can save 3 lives! That is a massive impact each person can have and the process really is so simple.

Blood donation (more bags than I could keep up with counting) helped keep me alive for an extra year – a year I will be forever grateful that I got to spend it here on Earth with my family, friends and dog. A year I had some of the greatest times of my life.

..’Til we meet again.




HOLLY BUTCHER/ 'I’m 27 now. I don’t want to go. I love my life': The heartbreaking open letter a young woman wrote to the world to be shared after her death... Holly Butcher penned this inspiring message to remind us all to breathe in life, every day. It was shared online by her parents a few hours after she passed away suffering from a rare form of cancer. Ms Butcher, from Grafton, NSW, wrote it was strange to accept death at a young age because she imagined growing old. 'That's the thing about life, it is fragile, precious, unpredictable and each day is a gift, not a given right,' she wrote.  'The days tick by and you just expect they will keep on coming, until the unexpected happens. 'I’m 27 now. I don’t want to go. I love my life.'  The young woman said she wanted people to stop worrying about the 'meaningless stresses in life' like getting stuck in traffic or having a wobbly belly and think about someone facing more challenging problems.  'Let all that s*** go ... it is so insignificant when you look at life as a whole,' Ms Butcher wrote 'Take a big breath of that fresh Aussie air deep in your lungs, look at how blue the sky is and how green the trees are ... think how lucky you are to be able to do just that - breathe.' Ms Butcher, who represented the state in squash and hockey, said she watched her body waste away and reminded people to be grateful if they aren't suffering life threatening illnesses. Wanting people to value time more, the 27-year-old wrote that people should 'share their time' with friends and family and use money on experiences rather than buying a new outfit.  'Don't miss out on experiences because you spent all your money on material s***,' Ms Butcher wrote. 'Trust just enjoying and being in moments rather than capturing them through the screen of your phone.  'Life isn't meant to be lived through a screen nor is it about getting the perfect photo ... enjoy the bloody moment people!  'Stop trying to capture it for everyone else.' The young woman, who encouraged people to 'work to live not live to work', signed off by reminding everyone to donate blood.  'Blood donation ... helped keep me alive for an extra year - a year I will be forever grateful that I got to spend it here on earth with my family, friends and dog,' Ms Butcher wrote.  'A year I had some of the greatest times of my life

Ladies, Pass It on.


The last words ever written by Steve Jobs. Apparently, this is the real legacy he wished to leave the world….pass it on.

I have come to the pinnacle of success in business.
In the eyes of others, my life has been the symbol of success.
However, apart from work, I have little joy. Finally, my wealth is simply a fact to which I am accustomed.
At this time, lying on the hospital bed and remembering all my life, I realize that all the accolades and riches of which I was once so proud, have become insignificant with my imminent death.
In the dark, when I look at green lights, of the equipment for artificial respiration and feel the buzz of their mechanical sounds, I can feel the breath of my approaching death looming over me.
Only now do I understand that once you accumulate enough money for the rest of your life, you have to pursue objectives that are not related to wealth.
It should be something more important:
For example, stories of love, art, dreams of my childhood.
No, stop pursuing wealth, it can only make a person into a twisted being, just like me.
God has made us one way, we can feel the love in the heart of each of us, and not illusions built by fame or money, like I made in my life, I cannot take them with me.
I can only take with me the memories that were strengthened by love.
This is the true wealth that will follow you; will accompany you, he will give strength and light to go ahead.
Love can travel thousands of miles and so life has no limits. Move to where you want to go. Strive to reach the goals you want to achieve. Everything is in your heart and in your hands.
What is the world’s most expensive bed? The hospital bed.
You, if you have money, you can hire someone to drive your car, but you cannot hire someone to take your illness that is killing you.
Material things lost can be found. But one thing you can never find when you lose: life.
Whatever stage of life where we are right now, at the end we will have to face the day when the curtain falls.
Please treasure your family love, love for your spouse, love for your friends…
Treat everyone well and stay friendly with your neighbours.

Life cannot be bought.

The last words of a dying rich man/ Steve jobs


As I sat in a cafe drinking my coffee and eating my sandwich 2 paramedics (who were obviously taking a chance to grab A quick bite between jobs) came in and joined the queue waiting to get their breakfast and cuppa.

Just as they got to the till they got a message on the radio. They had to go at once.

They both laughed and said “that always happens to us!” Then they both rushed out to help someone.

Paramedics have one of the most important jobs in the world. Everyone else in the queue was just after a quick snack and a drink whilst shopping etc.

Why don’t we all we use this social media to get people (and companies) to allow paramedics and all other emergency services to jump the queue and get served as soon as they come in? That way they have a better chance of getting a drink and perhaps some food before they go on their day helping people.

Can all my friends and their friends please share this post so it can reach other people who might give up their place in the queue to emergency service workers?

I would always happily stand back and let them go in front of me after all their next job could be me or someone I know or I love.

If you agree then say so here then ‘like’ and perhaps share this if you care.

Thank you.



Think about it – not only have you survived another year but you have come through it fighting. You have likely felt like giving up so many times. But you didn’t. You need to pat yourself on the back there. Look at what you have been through, it is no mean feat. Sometimes even the most average day can feel like an expedition, we all know how it feels to be overwhelmed, so perhaps we should praise ourselves much more than we do.

Let’s not give the ‘fails’ a headline of their own, instead let’s mark them down to ‘lessons learned’. After all, there is no such thing as a failure, not until the game is well and truly over, and that is not now. Not yet. You have so much left in you to show the world and a million more lessons to learn. If we try we can see the excitement in failing; we always, always emerge better for it. There is no end to how much we can grow.

If life is actually all about love – and I truly believe it is – then you my friend, are winning at life. You have loved endlessly this year and you have been loved right back. You have even loved when life made it hard to do so. We don’t stop to appreciate this enough. What a wonderful thing it is to love and be loved in return.

You have lost some fears that were holding you back, some opinions that were restricting your ability to soar and probably one or two people who no longer had your best interests at heart. Whilst this is no doubt exactly as it should be, it is good to take a beat and think about them. Part of you will always miss them. Wish them well and move on.

Probably far too much in fact. For every nice and encouraging thing you tell yourself you have probably uttered a million silent criticisms inside your own head. Make a point with me of changing that for 2018. We can turn the radio station over to positive fm and start loving ourselves more – together we can do it. You and I. It is simply bad habits that we have become intertwined with and with a little introspection, we can unpick it all and start again. Happier and free to be who we are without fear of judgement.

This time of year is the perfect opportunity, to reflect on what we have been through and where we want to go next. Even amidst the chaos we can switch off every now and again to connect with our souls – we must. It is also the perfect time to think about those loves we have had to say goodbye to. Keep them with you during the festive season, somewhere, somehow they are there already.
Let them in.
The pain will lessen a little if you do. I promise. They are gone in one sense but not in another, keep their memory alive at this time of the year, it’s important that you do.

By January 1st, if you have done all your looking back, you can move onwards and upwards.

Ladies, and gents, we have a whole new year ahead of us – a fresh book with empty pages ready to be filled with a new chapter.
Let’s make it a good one.
Let’s fill it with stories our loved ones will tell for generations to come.

Much love.
Pass It On.



And could you be one of the few to solve it?

According to many, this puzzle is by far the hardest to solve and even though the answer is a logical one – it will truly mess with your mind!


A group of people with assorted eye colors live on an island. They are all perfect logicians — if a conclusion can be logically deduced, they will do it instantly. No one knows the color of their eyes. Every night at midnight, a ferry stops at the island. Any islanders who have figured out the color of their own eyes then leave the island, and the rest stay. Everyone can see everyone else at all times and keeps a count of the number of people they see with each eye color (excluding themselves), but they cannot otherwise communicate. Everyone on the island knows all the rules in this paragraph.

On this island there are 100 blue-eyed people, 100 brown-eyed people, and the Guru (she happens to have green eyes). So any given blue-eyed person can see 100 people with brown eyes and 99 people with blue eyes (and one with green), but that does not tell him his own eye color; as far as he knows the totals could be 101 brown and 99 blue. Or 100 brown, 99 blue, and he could have red eyes.

The Guru is allowed to speak once (let’s say at noon), on one day in all their endless years on the island. Standing before the islanders, she says the following:

“I can see someone who has blue eyes.”

Who leaves the island, and on what night?

There are no mirrors or reflecting surfaces, nothing dumb. It is not a trick question, and the answer is logical. It doesn’t depend on tricky wording or anyone lying or guessing, and it doesn’t involve people doing something silly like creating a sign language or doing genetics. The Guru is not making eye contact with anyone in particular; she’s simply saying “I count at least one blue-eyed person on this island who isn’t me.”

And lastly, the answer is not “no one leaves.”


Source: XKCD

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WANT TO STOP BULLYING? The Church Says A ‘Gender Free’ Childhood Is The Answer

According to The Church Of England, we should all be allowing our children to fully experiment with gender whilst they grow. The advice they are giving out to our nursery and primary schools is to allow all children to dress how they like, play with any toys they choose – without comment or expectation…

What does this mean?

It means that we should not assume they will like toys aimed at their gender – or make any comment when they do. The same goes for sports, hobbies and clothes.

If they wish to wear a tiara to a party – and they are male, no one should tell them that they shouldn’t. Or comment at all – except to say how lovely the tiara is…there should be no cajoling to choose a knight’s helmet instead.

According to them this will have a huge impact on bullying. By starting the children off early with no expectation of each sex’s behaviour, it will cut out a huge amount of stress, worry and teasing which can lead to extreme bullying and mental health issues in teenagers and adults. The statistics of teenage suicide are so very high and this will ultimately make a difference to that number.

Schools are also told they cannot use the Christian faith or Bible teachings to justify behaviour that is considered to amount to bullying – for example, identifying a transgender pupil by a sex other than the one they have chosen. The advice contains instructions on how to report bullying, including sample forms on which teachers are encouraged to name the alleged bully and their target, and use tick boxes to describe what happened.
Examples include name-calling, social media trolling, or insulting gestures.
The rules to ‘challenge homophobic, biphobic and transphobic bullying’ follow initial guidelines published by the Church three years ago which said being gay can be good and pupils should ‘revere and respect all members of the diverse community’.

I, for one, am very pleased too hear such progressive chat coming out of the cofE but I believe many people are shocked by this idea and worry it will create gender confusion when there was none before.

Child psychologists say otherwise; your gender will win out, regardless of what you play with or wear as a child, meaning that only those with true gender confusion will feel the need to change their sex, which would happen regardless but with much less stress and of course, bullying along the way.

Surely this can only be a good thing?

Let me hear your thoughts ladies!

Church of England say let the children explore their gender



FIND-A-FAULT FRIEND, FRIENDSHIPWe all have one, but are you aware of them?

It could be a family member, a colleague or a friend you have known for years. You may have become so used to their behaviour that it no longer bothers you, but it should.

Being close to someone does not give them the excuse to point out every flaw, to criticise every move you make and to bring you down, down, down.

If you ask for truth and you get it, fair enough, but there are way too many people who think that it is ‘their right’ to consistently pick and pick at the bones of you.

If you walk away from that person feeling a bit more crappy about yourself than you arrived, it is perhaps time to get rid.

Life is too short to surround yourself with people who:

Envy or are disgruntled by your successes
Point out every ‘flaw’ they feel you have
Take take take and rarely give.

Friends should make you feel lighter and happier, even in the worst of times. You see, you don’t get ‘sad’ by helping your loved ones through their pain. That’s not how it works.

You get sad by being treated badly. Feeling unworthy and unappreciated.

There is not enough time on the day to waste on this.

If you are not blossoming, move to where the sun shines brighter ladies. No need to stay in the rain.






Worrying – It’s a giant waste of your Imagination and it steals your peace.

Projecting – We spend so much of our quite time going over things that may never even happen.

Negative thinking – You may not realise it but your thinking creates your reality, are you tuned into Negative FM?

Frowning – Check in with your face and I bet you’ll be surprised just how often your face is set to this mode.

Doubting – Try and refrain from this for a whole week and your luck will soon change.

Judging – It’s easy to judge what we don’t understand, everyone is going through something.


Visualising – If you can dream it, you can have it. Try imagining what you’d really like in this life. It works.

Being Present – Really BE here, wherever you are. Not in the past and not in the present, but right here right now.

Positive thinking – Change the radio station to Glass Half-Full FM and sing along.

Smiling – Fake it at first and it will soon take hold, and it’s completely infectious. Works wonders on you and everyone around you.

Believing – Those who believe, achieve. Channel your inner child and believe in miracles – you are one.

Accept – Make peace with your past, accept the things you cannot control and only let the really important stuff affect you. For everything else apply the 5 year rule: If it won’t matter in 5 years then don’t waste 5 minutes being upset about it now.


This is your Sunday evening remonder


If you have been following this blog you will already know how I feel about advertisers and media industry people using airbrushed images and models who all look exactly the same in terms of no cellulite/ no stretch marks/ no fat at all….

I really want to see a ‘normal body revolution’ where women with very average shapes and sizes are not only used as models but are encouraged in their non-uniformity.

I have a dream!

Well, today I stumbled upon this beautiful model on one of my favourite sites and I was pleasantly surprised to see that her stretch marks were left unairbrushed for us all to see.

Now, this is in no way a body-shaming moment – in fact it is the opposite! I adore women’s bodies with all their quirks, bumps, lumps, stripes and dimples and I really feel our next generation should see much more of this in magazines and on billboards in order to reset this myth of perfection we have all been drawn into.

Perfection doesn’t exist outside of a computer photoshop programme!

So, I would like to take a moment to congratulate ASOS for this bold move and encourage them to keep it coming…this gorgeous model may have an amazing, and extremely slim body but not covering up her stretch marks is definitely a step in the right direction!

We are all imperfectly perfect and THAT is something worth photographing.

Normal body revolution/ no airbrushing






Somewhere someone is cowering in fear

Somewhere someone is desperately trying to feed a hungry child

Somewhere someone is running from a merciless enemy

Somewhere someone is dreaming of an escape to freedom

Somewhere someone is praying for an answer

Somewhere someone is cradling an baby too ill to save

Somewhere someone is trying to end it all

Somewhere someone is hearing the very worst news

Somewhere someone is realising it’s over

Somewhere someone is digging deeper than they thought they could

Somewhere someone is taking their very last breath

Somewhere someone is holding their loved one as they pass

Somewhere someone is soaking the ground with tears

Somewhere someone’s life is changed forever

Somewhere someone is feeling unimaginable pain.


Somewhere but not here, not today.

Every day you are alive and free, is a day to celebrate.

Somewhere someone wishes they were you right now.

Life is so very good






My mind is turning to summer and so it’s time for a spot of holiday shopping!

I am a huge fan of ASOS and Simply Beach for beachwear and swimsuits…. if you haven’t checked them out yet, please do! They were my first choice when it came to choosing brands to affiliate with on here. Here are a few of my favourites. They all have Summer Sales on too – bonus.

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Cute & Quirky

Pom-Poms are still all the fashion this summer and there are so many pieces available you can really have some fun. Everything below is from ASOS and comes in at just over £100 all in!



New Look Star Flats, £25.99 ASOS SHOP IT

Pom-Pom Beach Dress, £15.99 ASOS SHOP IT

Batwing Pom-Pom suit £35.99 ASOS SHOP IT

Fluor Pom Back-pack £28.99 ASOS SHOP IT


Splashing Out

If you want to invest in a classic one-piece that will never go out of style, head over to Simply Beach for their Melissa Odabash range. It is stunning and classic although a tad on the pricey side. Teamed with this stunning hat you would be the belle of the beach for sure. Add a beach tote with a touch of shimmer and some rose gold detail sandals and you have a true Movie-Star glamorous look.


HOT HOLIDAY WISH LISTMelissa Odabash Swimsuit, Simply Beach, £214.00 SHOP IT

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Shimmer spot Beach Tote, £22 ASOS SHOP IT

Chase The Sun Floppy Hat, £18.00 ASOS SHOP IT




You didn’t plan me nor was I a surprise.

You didn’t hold a loving hand out to feel me move around in my Mother’s tummy and marvel at the little feet you saw pressing out.

You didn’t wonder which part of your face would be present in mine.

You didn’t help paint my nursery and pretend to care about yellow or blue booties.

You didn’t make weary midnight snacks and dry pregnant tears for 9 months.

You didn’t feel the fear of childbirth and wonder how your woman found the strength to go through something so agonisingly life-changing and send prays to the sky for our safety.

None of this you did.

What you did do is something far more amazing.

You chose me.

You chose to love another man’s child as though she were your own.

The love you felt for my Mother was so very all consuming that it spilled out – and over – and made enough for me.

More than enough.

Without the bond most Father’s begin this journey with, you came along and fast-tracked through the realms of love and took me in as a part of you.

And I have been there ever since

To the Dad who chose me

Happy Father’s Day



D. Ashworth

Copyright LPIO 2017


1. Your beauty really does come from within, pay more attention to that, you can’t airbrush your soul.

2. You are unique, like a fingerprint. There is no one else in the world who can bring what you have or be what you are, embrace that.

3. If you are not their priority then don’t be an option.

4. No matter how you feel, try to get up, dress up show up and never give up.  

5. Be fearless in the pursuit of what sets your soul on fire – life begins at the end of your comfort zone and the world is yours to explore.

6. Your body was made to do amazing things do not judge it on it’s ability to fit into a dress size.

7. If he wants to be somewhere else, call him a cab.

8. You don’t find your worth in a man, you find your worth within yourself and then find a man that’s worthy of you.

9. Karma is only a bitch if you are – unscrewing someone else’s lightbulb won’t make yours shine more brightly.

10. If at first you don’t succeed, straighten your crown and try again.

Words: D. Ashworth




You may have already seen this flying around twitter and Facebook this week but if you haven’t, let me assure you it’s not a joke… this could be the next thing in fashion for our men who love a trend. Beards, man-buns and now behold, the Romphim… (personally think they should have called it a Hommeper…)

The company Romphim, are trying to get global by launching a crowdfunding campaign and as you can imagine the crowd are going wild for this….not entirely sure it’s in a good way but they are getting plenty of attention that’s for sure.

So ladies – let me hear your thoughts on the Romphim…could you see yourself strolling down the beach holding hands with your man in a play suit? Is it a step too far or is it a perfectly acceptable fashion forward move? I love to hear from you!



Presuming you’ve read today’s Daily Mail piece, attacking our favourite Mummy bloggers (if not read it here) then you will no doubt have an opinion to vent. Whilst I do believe there is a small amount of women out there who don’t appreciate this revolution in non-judgemental ‘we all make mistakes’ parenting, it’s safe to say the majority of us are relieved, entertained and comforted on a daily basis and cannot get enough!

I have read each of the aforementioned blogger’s reactions today and what I have heard is real women, who happen to very talented communicators, fending off a nasty and vile attack on their livelihoods, families and lives in general. Then, I have watched them rally together, garner support from their loyal following and steel themselves – validated in the reaction from the people they value and ready to feed another fish finger tea and swear a lot. They also feed wonderful meals to their beloved families more often than not and worry, kiss and fuss just like the rest of us. We are all in this together ladies and it’s bloody well hard.

This kind of women-power show of support is EXACTLY the essence behind this site and I for one am all over it! If you’d like to join in with your support then use the hashtag #solidaritea and share this image on your Facebook.



For the first time ever, we have teamed up with a host of fabulous bloggers to bring you an awesome giveaway of TWO KINDLE FIRE DEVICES!

Not only will one lucky reader get a KINDLE FIRE HD 8 but they will also get a KINDLE KIDS EDITION too!

So, firstly, let’s meet the wonderful collaborators…

Mother Distracted | The Rare Welsh Bit | Renovation Bay-Bee | Pretty Big Butterflies | Probably Busy | Mums Wine HQ | Tantrums to Smiles | Cats and Contours | Hubby Helps | Really Missing Sleep | Bump and Beyond | The Reluctant Traveller | The Diary of a Jewellery Lover | Mum Dad Plus 4 | Ickle Pickles Life and Travels | Helerina Blogs

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Joining forces together has meant we can bring you the chance to win not only a Fire HD 8 Tablet (8gb) but a Fire Kids Edition Tablet (in pink or blue) alongside some accessories (think screen protector and a case for the Fire HD 8).

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So how can you be in with a chance of winning? Well all you need to do is let us know:
What do you have planned for this summer? Anything exciting?

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As you know ladies, I am big believer that We Are All Wonder Women, hence the very make-up of this site.

Talking of make-up, our last Wonder Woman giveaways were so popular I thought we would drop another. This gorgeous, sparkly cosmetic bag is simply to die for and will rock any dressing table no question!

Enter to win below and don’t forget to PASS IT ON.

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You may remember a short time ago I posted about the new trend in denim? Clear panels were sneaking their way in to jeans over in the US and we all had a bit of a laugh about that didn’t we? Well, things have escalated rather more quickly than we thought ladies… random panels of see-through plastic have now scaled the heady heights to entirely transparent attire!

Behold….clear jeans (how do we even know they are jeans though?

Apparently, the trend began on the catwalk, as all things fashiony do, and has culminated in Top Shop selling out in popular sizes and trending on twitter – which by the way has been hilarious….

So, at around £55 a pair will you be splashing the cash on these? You could splash anything you want on these come to think of it – nothing if not practical!

The term The Emperor’s New Clothes springs to mind but who am I to judge….

What do you think ladies? See yourself walking around the park with a pair of these over your boyfriend shorts?


Here at Ladies Pass It On we are all about supporting other women and building each other up! Nothing better than when women empower other women to be their fiercely fabulous selves and let’s be honest – who doesn’t love a good compliment every now and again?!!

So, our latest giveaway is perfectly on point I am sure you will agree! Congrats to the winner of our last giveaway too!

The winner will receive a pack of 10 gorgeous compliment cards from

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I am so excited about our latest giveaway! Huge Congratulations to our recent Wonder Woman winner too…

My favourite Chocolatier (bar none!), Hotel Chocolat, has kindly offered one of their amazing Happy Easter Hampers for one of our lucky readers! I am a huge fan of these luxury treats and am currently enjoying my Mother’s Day selection bought for me by my gorgeous boys!

How absolutely adorable is this ladies!?

Hotel Chocolat Happy Easter Hamper:

We know it’s not always easy being the designated Easter Bunny, so we’ve filled your basket for you! Your Egglet H-box is bursting with fresh and favourite recipes including the odd tipple for the grown-ups, while everything else is family-friendly: City Bunnies filled with classic molten caramel, elegant Salted Caramel Puddles, Eggs & Soldiers with truffle eggs and praline toast slices and the mellow Caught on the Hop Slab to snap and share. Now all you need to do is find somewhere to hide it all – or gift them to someone else who will…

Disclaimer: Offer is subject to stock levels, if in the event of stock running out a prize of equal value will be sent in time for Easter.


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I nearly spat out my coffee when I came across this little gem earlier today! Top Shop of all people are responsible and whilst they’re currently only for sale in the US, it surely won’t be long till the trend travels across the pond!?


These beauties are called the Clear Knee Mom Jeans and apparently they could actually become a thing! Although there has been some very entertaining twitter chat to the contrary, as you can imagine.

A snippet at £81 from Nordstrom if you’re interested….

Too good not to share with you all! What’s next I wonder? Mummy Tummy Tops with windows on the belly? Could happen! Fashion is a wonderful thing…🤗

So ladies… will you be wearing them?


SPRING BLING YOUR HOME/ LADIES PASS IT ON BLOG/ WWW.LADIESPASSITON.COMThere is no doubt this week that Spring is here! The days are already longer, the birds are singing as loudly as can be and the sun is even shining!

So, if you are like me, you will want to bring a bit of Springtime inside the house to spread the seasonal feels.

Every year, I change the main accessories around in the rooms we spend most time in…. in November, out comes the sparkle and festive lights, candles and ornaments and in March, those shimmery bits and bobs are stored away and out come the flowers and freshness! Faux flowers are everywhere in my house and they really do say Spring is here! My selection below are from Sainsbury Home Department believe it or not but I have seen so many other stunning arrays in John Lewis, NEXT and well pretty much everywhere!


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Next on my list is this Floral Garland from Not On The High Street, I will opt for cream to match in with my home and my plans are to drape it around a picture frame or mirror – to be decided! I am also loving these Tea Roses from there too…

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This Spring Blossom Spray is also calling my name – loving the splash of pink this year and may throw a few spots of into my lounge/kitchen…

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Any of these arrangements would also make a fab Mother’s Day Gift too – I know I would be over the moon to get any of them – especially the one above (husband hint).

Do you like to add anything to your home decor to freshen up for Spring? As always I love to hear from you. if you have enjoyed this please do pass it on!


As one Superhero prize door closes – another one opens here at Ladies Pass It On! Behold the stunning beauty of our latest giveaway! A sparkly Wonder Woman purse which will undoubtably be the envy of all your friends… share and spread the love girls! There are plenty more giveaways like this in our future so stay in touch!

Congrats to the winner of our SuperWoman And Wonder Woman greetings cards too…

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Today our Ladies At Work article is close to my heart indeed.

The beautiful lady providing the inspiration this time, is a friend of mine Rachael Cameron. Whilst we have never met, I have watched Rachel grow as a mum, a woman and now a small (and utterly adorable) business owner.

Rachael and I met (virtually) on a Birth Board – for those of you unfamiliar with such things, it’s basically a place where expectant mums, who are all due in the same month, meet virtually to chat about what is happening in their lives.

Birth Boards are interesting places simply because you all have one huge thing in common and there is never a time, day or night, when someone won’t be there to shed light on a fear, rally round a problem or receive a vent! As a result, there is a large group of women in my life who I have shared almost everything with and Rachel is one of them. We are now more than 5 years down the line and I am so proud of this girl! A mum to 3 gorgeous children and someone who has the courage to follow her dreams and give it a go…

Rachel had an idea one night after receiving constant compliments on her creative designs and in the blink of an eye, she set the ball rolling and this adorable business was born.

Meet Sweetpea & Rose..

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If you are looking for the perfect gift for a little princess then you have found the place. Rachel makes the most adorable items I have seen in a very long time and there seems to be no limits to her creativity and imagination. Here are just a few of my favourites.

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Sweetpea & Rose is in it’s infancy so we want to give it the boost it very rightly deserves. In return, the lovely Rachel has agreed to give away a fantastic prize to one of our lucky winners. How would you like to win this Easter outfit to end all Easter outfits!


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It is literally everywhere! Embroidered denim especially seems to be huge on the high street this season.

Takes me back I have to say…I had some ace embroidered jeans and a jacket back in my day but I committed the carinal sin of wearing top and bottom to match. Will I be wearing it again? Actually I will..there are some gorgeous pieces around and if worn the right way I think it looks fab and perfect for Spring.

A few of my favourites…

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One of my favourite of the embroidered jean jackets I’ve seen. Zara baby!

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This gorgeous skirt is from River Island

Denim jacket from Next

Go Rock Chick in the leather version from Next

Jeans from Zara, one of many variations!

Top Shop embroidered brogues will see you bang on trend

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Bomber jacket from Primark

Silk bomber from Oasis


By Elena Cid.

I can’t believe we are fully into 2017.

How did that happen?

We’ve blinked, it’s the end of February and spring is round the corner. If you are as interiors obsessed as me, you are probably wondering what the major interior trends of this year will be?

2016 was the year of the Scandi style, copper and marble but will this be as big in 2017? Here are the top 5 interior styles I think we will see a lot of…



Velvet textures and fabrics in rich jewel tones like teal, emerald green and magenta will be a great hit this year. It’s all about the luxury, and giving an air of opulence to your home. It’s time to be bold and really out-there with your decor choices.I am very excited about this trend, I am a colour lover and I think we will see some beautiful decor pieces in the next few months.



Cork will be a key element, yes, you’ve heard me right. With eco-living being so important at the moment, natural and sustainable materials are becoming more and more popular. Cork has been billed the new marble and we will be seeing a lot of it in 2017. interior-trends


A few months ago I wrote a post about the tropical trend. It was very popular this summer and I am sure it will still see a lot of it in 2017.

The bold, rich colours and fun designs are quite appealing and look good no matter your home style.

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Forget about pastels, this is going to be the year of rich, vibrant colours. Expect to see a lot of citrine, amethyst, sapphire and emerald hues. These tones will bring a luxe and sophisticated tone to your home. My bet is on jewel tones to be extremely popular this year. We will see an explosion of colour in interiors and it will be one trend I will love to embrace.


Scandi Style

Scandi Style was a really popular in 2016 and I think it will still be quite popular this year. With Hygge being fashionable at the moment I can see the Scandi style being with us for quite a while. This is also a relatively cheap trend to create at home.

Overall I think 2017 will be quite a bold year in interiors.


It will be a year to forget the pastels and embrace the colour, the deeper and brighter the better. What do you think of these trends?

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Any of you who have frequented this blogzine before will already be well aware that I think us ladies are awesome! What exactly is it about us that I continuously want to celebrate? I think it’s because I’m at a very happy place in my life where I am lucky enough to be surrounded by a group of amazing women who are there at the drop of a hat to support, help and enjoy life with me. If I need inspiration, advice or a shoulder I can reach out and find it very easily on a daily basis, which is something I am hugely grateful for! Being a business owner I am also aware that without the loyal, intuitive and hard-working fabulous female employees who have been integral over the years I just could not have made it this far. In short, I have been blessed and I want to shout about it!

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I am always looking for your stories to relay on here – whether you have set up a business you’d like to promote or you have a subject you’d like to discuss, perhaps you have a hobby you’d love to tell everyone about? Drop me a line and I will share your story with our readers. I have had some great feedback recently and it seems that there are many of you who share my love of looking into other people’s lives for a brief snapshot of how they live – there’s no advice better than that of someone actually doing it!

So, one of my favourite things to do whilst our community is still growing is to give away prizes to my readers as a thank you for their continuing support. Today I have some of my own-design greeting cards ( I hope to sell these and others like it very shortly via this site, I will keep you all posted).

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Hard to convey via photograph but the cards are pearlised and beautifully shimmering – even the envelope! They will make the perfect gift when you just want to let someone know you think they are amazing!


WIN your own Superwoman cards by simply commenting below and subscribing to receive our email updates.


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Tales of a Handy Husband…

When I met my husband Robert he worked in TV and was very much a self-confessed DIY-phobe. Since having our two boys and buying our own family-friendly business ( a children’s Soft-Play centre – more about that another day) he has developed not only some serious skills, but a burning passion for creating, fixing and building! Now I know a lot of you share my love of interiors and house-improvement so I thought I would show you a little bit of what he has been up to and spread the inspiration…

One of my favourite projects he undertook recently was the conversion of my horrid old crumbling cloakroom under the stairs into a gorgeous, spacious little nook of tranquility! Behold….

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I hope you will agree with me that it’s a seriously cute space – even though my photographs on the wall are squint! My bad…

So, it all began on a Monday morning in November at 8.30 am: Robert and his trusty side-kick Stewart got stuck straight in tearing out cupboard doors, knocking down the wall separating the cloakroom from the cupboard next to it and the scariest part – sawing through the wooden joist that may or may not have been holding up the stairs!

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Robert literally holding up the roof…or we thought perhaps he could have been anyway. Luckily everything stayed put.

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We definitely held our breath here…

Once the space was cleared, we had a decision to make. our initial idea had been to build a large seat with drawers underneath and a bespoke upholstered cushion (something along these lines)…

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…but a last minute flash of inspo determined that we would lose the feeling of ‘space’ we so desperately sought, so we decided to leave it open.

This new direction meant of course that the floor had to be matched and laid which was probably the hardest part of the whole operation. Once we had that down the very bumpy old wall was covered with some plasterboard and wallpapered. We chose a brick effect wallpaper from B&Q to cover a multitude of sins and it really did the trick.

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The final touches consisted of new wallpaper for the opposite wall – we went with a shimmery grey to add to the cosy feel, a gorgeous beaten metal stool from Zara Home and finally our favourite – the A light! A for Ashworth which is obviously our name or A for A-team if you prefer, I loved that show!

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Now, for those of you thinking ‘That is all very well and good but where on earth did you put all your STUFF?! Well, we put a wardrobe near the side door to our house for coats and school bags and we managed to squeeze some sneaky storage into the nook, like this… 

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Drawers for more shoes, hats, scarves and gloves and a little box for keys!

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Super slim shoe boxes from IKEA – genius!

The end result is a very airy yet cosy entrance-way, a very enjoyable view from other parts of the house and a cool place to sit whilst taking your shoes on and off and of course – take selfies. It has definitely become my favourite place to snap the kids when they’re looking particularly dapper! Of course we could have got someone in to do it and yes it would have been less rough around the edges but there is really something very cool about having done it yourself…not me exactly but you know what I mean.

Daylight view…and another Selfie.


Here are a few other ideas you could use to inspire your under-stair conversion. I definitely say go for it! The whole process only took 2 days.

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Next time, on Tales of a Handy Husband, I will be showing you how my handsome other half made me the perfect outdoor Party Bar for less than £20 and in 2 hours! Make sure you sign up to receive blog updates so you don’t miss!

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How cool is this outdoor Party Bar?!



OK ladies – I set this site up initially because I am surrounded by amazing women;  women who pull off mammoth jam-packed days that would curl most men’s hair. Mums, career-women, students, sloggers, grafters, carers, entrepreneurs, business-women, chefs, crafters, creators, life-givers, faithful friends – sometimes all rolled into one! It never fails to amaze me the resources and strengths us ladies have and so I wanted a platform where women in all their glory could be celebrated and supported – whilst we are still only a few months old, I am loving the community we have started.

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My recent instagram post confirmed that the below giveaway prize is truly to-die-for and we all NEED it. So, from the bottom of my heart please accept a huge thank you and a chance to win…

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NEED… ! Anyone else think these flip flops will make life just a little bit better? ❤️

I managed to get my hands on two pairs, one size 6.5 UK and one size 5 which I am assured will cover a wide range of sizes (4-7) simply because flip-flops do not need to fit exactly. So, we should have most bases covered.

Winners will be drawn February 8th.

If you would like to be in with a chance of winning simply:

Comment below and share this post on the social media platform of your choice – or all of them – why not!?


Subscribe to my mailing list so you never miss a new article. Done!

Good luck lovelies and once again – THANK YOU!



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UPDATE: WE HAVE A WINNER!!! Brenda Melaniphy it’s your lucky day!!!!

Get Ready To Decorate!

Quite simply, a round-up of my favourite Christmas decorations available right now… now come on – get to it – it’s just around the corner!


Let’s start at the very beginning…a very good place to start – your front door! A wreath is a must-have to set the tone from the moment someone steps into your home. Here are some to suit all tastes…


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Grey Berry Wreath, £39.50 M&S


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Brussel Sprout Wreath, £39 Not On The High Street


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Bauble Star Wreath, £30 John Lewis



One of my favourite decorations – a stair garland. To me there is nothing more festive than opening your door to a cosy, twinkly lit hallway, inviting you in to the festive cheer inside – and hopefully a cup or two of mulled wine!


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Eucalyptus & Winterberry, £75 The White Company


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Pre-lit Marabou Boa Garland, £10 John Lewis


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Birch Star, £26 Not On The High Street




We all need them! Whether you are traditional or a follower of fashion here are a few to get you thinking.

The White Company can always be relied upon for stylish, understated chic…


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Sparkle pine cones – £10 for 10

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Porcelain Bells, £22 for 6

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Hearts & Stars, £12 for 6


This year I am totally in love with H&M Home range – their baubles are ultra stylish and quirky and such good value for money!

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I also love the pink and gold hues in M&S this year – pretty and different although very girly!

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Wouldn’t be christmas at all without these bad boys…


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Fair Isle wool stocking, £30 The White Company


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Father Christmas Stocking, £15 M&S


Glitter Stocking, £21 Not On The High Street



Let’s face it – Christmas is completely reliant on lights for that festive feel during the dark months – whether you like warm, multi-coloured or ice white lights, there’s no doubt it makes those cosy Christmas evenings truly magical….here are a few that caught my eye this year.


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Stag Head, £75 John Lewis


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Lattice Star Light, £40 The Lovely Light company


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Starburst oversized hallway light £40 lights For Fun, Not on the High Street


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Extra long outdoor lights £50 The White company


I made these for a party a few weeks ago and they look simply glorious dotted around the house in the evening – the lights are ingenious if you ask me as the battery is in the cork – fab!

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Cork shape lights,£8 Amazon


Whatever way you decide to decorate, be sure to enjoy the process – it is after all The Most Wonderful Time of The year!

We’d love to see your finished homes – pop over to our Facebook page to join the fun.

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Fine Young Things!

As part of our Ladies At Work category we would love to introduce another inspirational woman to you all. Eleni Hadjikakou is a busy working mother to three boys and yet has somehow found the time to set up a fantastic clothing range for children – Fine Young Things.

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Fine by name and fine by nature, this fashionable website provides parents with a carefully curated range of classic styles and funky fashion labels, from all over the globe for boys and girls – ages Newborn to 12 years – there’s something to suit every style.

Look out for the special Black Friday offer at the end of the article – thanks Eleni – we all love a good deal!

“I set up Fine Young Things having spotted a gap in the market for a wider and more varied range of Kidswear that is priced somewhere between the high Street and the big Designer brands. Something special, different and yet still affordable. We visit family in Europe often and I saw so many fantastic kid’s clothes on my travels but nothing like that back at home!”

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Eleni’s three boys have loved modelling the range and getting involved with the family business

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The site is a veritable goldmine of cute clothing with recognisable brands such as Billieblush, Billybandit and Garcia Kids, as well as names relatively new to the UK, like Sticky-Fudge from South Africa and Carrement Beau from France – with more to come with new brands for spring/summer wear, including Danish brand Mini A Ture.

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Still juggling a busy career in Finance, it’s a real labour of love as Eleni explains:

 “I launched on our tenth wedding anniversary as both my husband and I wanted it to be a special day for the family. Our three boys have really enjoyed getting involved in the photo shoots and we are very proud of how they have captured each look. Over the years so many friends wanted to know where we bought their clothes and how they could find them – so we felt compelled to act. I hope to find similar, like-minded parents that will continue on our journey of discovery for their Fine Young Things!”

Eleni has kindly given our readers a sneak preview of the black friday Sale! Simply log on and type in the code at checkout…





For me there is no better way to celebrate a new venture than opening the fizz!

So, I designed this glitter card print and had it framed and ordered one more to give away to you!

The print is so far unavailable in shops, is unique to my good self and worth £75!

Good luck to all those entering and thank you for your support.

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Boots Baby!

Oh yes – it’s that time of year when we have a real and valid excuse to get to the shops and clobber up for winter! Whatever your style preferences, we all need a pair of boots for day to day trekking and for those winter nights out. Here are a few of my favourites…

Over the knee boots are still making style news this year, love these stretchy beauties from ZARA £45. Available in brown too


For everyday multi-faceted use with a touch of ‘cool’ these ankle boots are a must. £69.99 ZARA

Just loving the zip detail on the back of these high boots! These would look great with anything and everything – day or night! £55.99 ZARA

Dare to be different in these gold healed beauties! £79.99 River Island


Just Fab UK host a vast selection winter boots and are offering any 2 pairs for £35! Bargain. Not tried ordering from them yet but the choice is huge and great value.

The elegant mix of slate and black combined with the wedge lift would add a really stylish end to any outfit. Just Fab online

Brown ankle boots are so very versatile! Team with a matching bag for an Autumnal look. Just Fab online 2 for £35 across the site!


Just Fab online – 2 for £35 across the site


Style Junky Winter!

I caught up with the gorgeous Sacha from StyleJunky Boutique in Manchester recently to garner her ever so stylish advice on what we should be wearing this winter. Here is what she had to say, I am all over it…

Here at Stylejunky Boutique our aim of the game is to make everyday style look effortless. It’s all about the capsule wardrobe that will take you from day into night with very little prep time…

Layered up knitwear is not only super cosy but it looks fab and it’s great fun mixing and matching different pieces. Flexible and stylish!

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A beautiful Bobble Hat adds a touch of winter chic to any outfit.



We won’t compromise on style for the school run. If you’re going to wear a hood – make it a good one!



Adding a touch of shimmer and shine will keep you on trend this season solving the “What to wear for cocktail hour?” dilemma. Team a flash of metallic and sparkle with coated jeans and heels.




Our nod to Camouflage: keep it subtle and toned down with black and denim for military chic.


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