Maybe they’re not being selfish. Maybe they’re struggling to cope. Perhaps, the reason they didn’t show up, was not because you’re not important enough, but because they felt they were not important enough. Perhaps the reason they didn’t reply, is because they are way too deep, in the depths of a suffocating depression that they…
1. You will receive a body.Make peace with it or fight a life long war, the choice is yours and yours alone. 2. You will learn lessons.Every day is a school day; you will never live a day without learning about someone, something or yourself. Pay attention. 3. There are no mistakes, only lessons.No wrong…
Some are sent to teach you what love is. Some are sent to teach you what love most definitely isn’t… Some are sent to support you without bias, and those you must hold very dear indeed. Others are sent to challenge your self-worth, never let them win. Some people are taken far too soon and…
Great memories are made when you let go, feel the freedom and drink in the beauty of the moment. 2. Happy memories are not dependant on the size of your swimsuit or how much cellulite you have. 3. Talking of the above, nobody ever notices yours, they are too busy worrying about their own ‘flaws’.…
I’m sorry. If I said the wrong thing, or said nothing at all when I should have said something meaningful… I’m sorry. If I failed to make you smile or turned up late or didn’t show up at all… I’m sorry. If I didn’t reply to your message or chose the wrong words when I…
When my kids are grown and out in the world, I want to be that house… the one where everyone travels back to. The house where everyone feels at home and joy is bursting out of the windows and doors. Where a problem shared is a problem halved. The house that rings with laughter, music…
If you think that the days, months and years will somehow erase the extent of the loss, then you have never been unlucky enough to lose a love. You are blessed, my friend. For life without that piece of you, is a new life indeed. It is a new world when the person you miss…
This I know. And yes it’s hard for you to believe that right now, so wrapped up in the dark you have become. But believe me, it’s true. Your happy days are coming and they will blow your mind. How do I know this? Because this, my darling girl, is life. Life is hard. And…
Some days she can’t begin to imagine how she will get through, but every single day she makes it to the other side. She listens, she cares, she gives, she works, she ploughs her way through an endless list of tasks, an endless list of people who need her. And finally, when the sun has…
SAY HOW YOU FEEL.
LEAVE THE JOB YOU HATE.
LOVE WITH EVERY OUNCE OF YOUR BONES.
STAND UP FOR THINGS THAT MATTER. YOU ARE ONE OF THOSE.
DON’T SETTLE.
DON’T APOLOGISE FOR WHO YOU ARE.
BE BRAVE.
BE BRAVE, MY FRIEND.
THIS LIFE IS SHORT.
Dear Friend, Thank you for seeing the good in me, when I could not. Thank you for reminding me to laugh, when I had forgotten how. Thank you for the times you spent listening to my worries, my fears, my insecurities. Thank you, most of all, for never getting weary of all that. Thank you…
You are always ‘allowed’ to leave… A date, a job, a relationship, an argument, an uncomfortable situation… Wherever you are, however deafening the silent, societal pressure is – you are always allowed to leave. Having boundaries is important, it’s just as important as having courage, being kind and being loved. If you have no…
1. A good bra, preferably one for simply feeling beautiful in and one that makes you feel ready to take on the world. They are rarely the same thing, unfortunately. 2. A loyal girl friend. A like-minded soul who sees your worth when you have lost sight of it. Nothing else is particularly required of…
And I was busy… but busy in a way only a few would perhaps understand. I was busy being kind to myself when the day had hit me harder than expected. I was busy being quiet when the world around me had become too much, too much noise and bustle to bear. I was…
There was a time, when I would have crossed oceans to reach people, who wouldn’t cross a stream for me. There was a time, when I would try, too hard, to be seen by those, who would simply never see me. There was a time, when I felt myself unworthy, of a person, who could…
It doesn’t mean that you failed, or went wrong somewhere along your way. It simply means that you value yourself enough, to want the very best in life. To want to feel those endorphins. To want to experience that peace of mind. To want to embrace being happy in your own skin. It’s okay…
To finally let go of the past. To finally realise I am enough, just the way I am. To finally feel whole, at peace and ready for anything good that may choose to come my way. On the stroke of midnight 2018, a new chapter in my book will begin. And I will be…
The need to make people like me. The right people instinctively will like me. The question next year, will be do I like them? The need to be perfect and never fail. It’s exhausting and I am done. I make mistakes. Sometimes I win, sometimes I lose. That’s me and that’s life. The way…
You Can’t Dance In The Rain If You Are Drowning… ‘Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass, it’s about learning to dance in the rain.’ So they say. But what if the storms have been coming down so hard, for so long that you’re sinking like a rock in a pond? What then?…
Don’t Let Thoughts Of Monday Steal Your Sunday Don’t let worries for tomorrow, steal today. Worrying is a waste of a good imagination. What happens will happen anyway. You see my friend, if we could forget what has gone before and go forth without fear of failure, without memories of rejection and without care for…
This Is Your Sunday Evening Reminder… That people can be cruel and selfish sometimes, but that doesn’t mean you have to be. Don’t sink to their level, keep rising in this life, you’re aiming much higher than they are. Don’t look down. That life is a rollercoaster for everyone, not just you. Some chapters are…
Today I asked my body what she needed, Which is a big deal Considering my journey of Not Really Asking That Much. I thought she might need more water. Or protein. Or greens. Or yoga. Or supplements. Or movement. But as I stood in the shower Reflecting on her stretch marks, Her roundness where I…
One day she woke up different. She woke up with a purpose that didn’t depend on pleasing other people. She woke up with a burning desire to strip back her life of anything that didn’t bring her joy. She was done with comparison. She was over perfection. She realised that anything which cost her her…
And it will hurt like hell…. You’re going to lose people along the way People you thought you’d never lose. People you truly believed would always be there. And it’s going to hurt like hell. But that, my friend, is life People change, relationships change. Some evolve. Some disintegrate. Some people leave through no will…
To the woman who has lost her spark. To the woman whose get up and go, has well and truly gone. This is for you. This is to remind you whose daughter you are. This is to remind you, that you don’t have to be everything to everyone, every day. You didn’t sign up for…
I’M NOT PERFECT God only knows that is true. I say the wrong things, often. I make the wrong choices, daily. I overlook life’s important things sometimes and become bogged down in the shallow end. I occasionally judge others with the harshness I view myself. And that is wrong. I am most definitely not perfect.…
IT’S TIME TO STOP SURVIVING It’s time to start living. Survival mode was something you fell into, to get through that phase of your life. Remember? It wasn’t supposed to be forever. You weren’t supposed to carry on surviving. You were supposed to come out the other end, a survivor, victorious and start living…
Today, remember that the bad times, are part of your journey too. They are part of your story. So own them – never let them own you. These challenges that you face? You are supposed to be facing them. You are supposed to come out victorious. This is just another chapter in your book. Never…
If you are about to give up To give in To throw in the towel To break down To let go of that dream… Remember one thing, you were born for this. You were born to kick ass and show the world what you are made of. And you’ve been through worse. Much worse, right?…
When you’ve shouted at the kids and tears have been shed. When you’ve stumbled through homework and a dinner that was both beige and bland. When you’ve forgotten the games kit and the project is late. When you feel that you are failing consistently and dropping more plates than you can spin. When everyone else…
This Letter Is To You. The you who has had, just about enough. The you who feels like everything is hopeless. The you who feels she has lost her way, her faith. The you who feels the happy times in life are for others, not you. The you who believes nothing good will come. The…
When you have a list to complete as long as your arm but you call your Mum or Dad, simply because you know the sound of your voice brings them untold joy…. These are the moments that matter, my friend. They won’t always be there to answer. ∼ When you really should have left the…
To My Second Child… There are nowhere near as many photographs of your first few years, I know. You wear hand-me-downs, play with second hand toys and your ‘firsts’ are not quite as celebrated as perhaps they should be. But, if you ever, ever feel that you are second best, let me tell you how…
I GO THERE TOO… When all goes dark and the spiral engulfs you. When connections are lost and loneliness possesses you. When the faith leaves you and helplessness thrives from you. When strength becomes weak and nothing nourishes you. When love becomes untrue and abandonment becomes a part of you. When all hope of change…
Ageing isn’t about lost youth It’s about finding… Who your true friends really are. The difference between shiny and worthy. The confidence to be yourself in any room. The time to dedicate to the things that bring you joy. The wisdom to say no to the things that don’t. The freedom to choose your own…
’Tis a fearful thing to love what death can touch. A fearful thing to love, to hope, to dream, to be – to be, And oh, to lose. A thing for fools, this, And a holy thing, a holy thing to love. For your life has lived in me, your laugh once lifted me, your…
And this is why. You see, I can’t stop thinking about how this scenario could have played out, had the cameras missed the ‘incident’. I have no doubt whatsoever that you would have successfully convinced everyone that, for no reason, Ryan approached you and punched you 5 times in the ribs, with malice, with intent…
Don’t ask me how old I am….that’s not my age. Ask me how many sunsets I have seen, how many sunrises I have waited up for; to signal new start… Ask me how many times I have moved on, let go. Again. Ask me how many battles I have fought, how many times my heart…
There will be some very painful moments in your life, my friend. There will be moments, days even, when the sun doesn’t seem to rise in your world and the breath feels sucked right out of your lungs. When food has no taste, the world has no joy and everything seems like an effort too…
Things I Wanted To Say But Never Did… Went in a sad little box in my mind, alongside the things I wanted to do but never did. They nestled there beside the opportunities I missed through fear and insecurity. Places I didn’t go to when I had the chance. People I didn’t dare to meet.…
Maybe this journey is not about ‘becoming’ yourself. Maybe it’s actually about ‘unbecoming’ everything the world made you into. Stripping off the layers you added one by one over the years to protect yourself, to hide the real you. The flaws, the quirks. The differences that made you stand out. Chipping away at the shame…
There will never be a day you don’t miss her. Never a day, where you don’t wish you could hear her voice or ask for her advice just one more time. There will never be a moment that you don’t regret all the times you screened her call, or missed a visit, simply because life…
To The Girl In The Mirror I left you. A long time ago. I was ashamed of you and your rough edges, your imperfections, your weaknesses. So I moved on without you and became someone who fit in more easily. Every now and then I caught a glimpse of you and it took me by…
This is your Sunday reminder… That just because something has held you back in the past, doesn’t mean it has to forever. You are in control – if you look closely you will see it was you all along. That wonderful things can happen at any moment, be ready, always be ready. Some people might…
You Started With A Blank Canvas Beautiful, unspoiled – that much is true. Then life began to mould you, shape you, draw its art upon your skin. Stretch marks, freckles, sun-spots, wrinkles, laughter lines and frown lines… And every time something new appeared upon you, you mourned the loss of the smooth, unspoiled and innocent.…
Let me take the photograph It’s annoying, I know. It interrupts the flow. It may seem trivial in the moment, or even vain… But one day someone will be glad that moment was captured. Those faces, in that place. This moment in time. Let me take the picture my friends… because this little snapshot will…
If you are not distracted every now and again, by the colours in the sky, or the spots on a ladybug, or the sound of the sea – you need to plug yourself in my friend Plug yourself in to the earth on which you live. Like a laptop that’s stuck, switch off and on…
For all the parents who are out there living, walking, eating, even laughing sometimes, yet feeling as though they are empty on the inside. This is for you. Losing a child is like losing your life and yet you are still here. Still breathing, still paying bills, still talking about the weather. Still loving…
A loving father’s words on his daughter’s wedding day… ‘If you ever stop loving my daughter… Don’t punish her, don’t stray away, don’t stay for the sake of it without affection or friendship. You see, I loved her first and I will love her, always. More than I ever thought possible for one person to…
Then I Pray That You Are Living Your Life To The Full, my Friend. The way I see it, there are 3 groups of people on this planet… …Those who want to stay alive – who really want to live, but who are fighting a losing battle against a disease or a situation they cannot…
“Dear Stranger, You don’t know me but I hear you are going through a tough time, and I would like to help you. I want to be open and honest with you, and let you know that happiness isn’t something just afforded to a special few. It can be yours, if you take the…
Psychologists have proven that the physical act of walking through a doorway is the reason why you sometimes enter a room and completely forget what you were doing. It happens a lot, does it not? You see, going through a door signifies the beginning or end of something, so it creates an ‘event boundary’ within…
To All The Missing Dads on Father’s Day To those who didn’t show up at all, who left a hole that can never quite be filled. You are still missed, still loved, despite everything. Your child will never stop feeling that separation. To those who showed up and gave everything but were taken away far…
One Day… An army of furious older women will take over the world. And I want to be there at the front. Because one day, every woman wakes up and realises, that quite frankly, they put themselves through hell. Trying to fit in, trying to be enough, to be attractive, to be acceptable, to be…
Let Yourself Off The Hook, My Friend… Put down that load, before it breaks your spirit. If you physically carried all that crap around with you, it would break your back eventually. Would it not? So why do you carry it all inside of you? Put it down. Leave it there. Walk away. Don’t look…
1. Half the world is starving through no choice of their own, the other half is trying to lose weight. 2. 152,000 people died today, you weren’t one of them. That should be your waking gratitude, every day. 3. 15 million people were told they had cancer last year. Only 7 million are still lucky…
I want to retreat. I want to hide. If I could disappear completely, until the feelings pass, I would. And if you ask me if I am okay I will say fine, every time. You see, I don’t want your help, because I don’t feel like anyone can help me. I don’t feel like I…
Like you’ve no worries in the world. Remember how that felt? The delicious ice-creams, the sand between your toes, the sun on your skin. The sounds of laughter, of the sea. The pretty colours, the beautiful clothes. The freedom of the long days and the balmy nights. The freedom of your own self, from the…
If all you did today was hold yourself together, I am proud of you, my friend. If all you did today was breathe in and out and silently battle with the negative voice inside your head, then you should be proud of you too. If all you did today was to hold on by the…
Do you ever have one of those days when your heart just f**king hurts? When someone’s story of grief and loss gets you right in the gut and knocks the breath clean out of your lungs. When all you want to do is go round up your loved ones and hold them tight. Today is…