Dear Parents Who ‘Re-homed’ Your Autistic Son,

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I can’t stop thinking about him.

I cant stop imagining the trauma he felt waking up in a new home and the trauma he will continue to feel, when he watches all the footage from the three years he lived with you.

You already had 2 kids, you had a family you-tube channel, it was small but growing.

You told your followers you were looking to adopt a foreign baby with a special focus (you said on video a ‘medical condition or special needs’). Your followers went wild for your amazing ‘gesture’.

You found such a child, you adopted him.

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You made a huge amount of money and received a mass following, all because of this, and the content it created (the gotcha video of the day you adopted him, had millions and millions of views). You then had another baby of your own

3 years later you have given your adopted son away to ‘someone better suited’.

I don’t want to judge anyone on this page, really I don’t, but this is causing me to lose sleep, simply because of the money and the fame you received, whilst undertaking this heinous act and the possibility it will encourage more of the same.

The possibility that it’s okay to adopt and re-home children like a bad family pet you no longer want to deal with.

Your video explaining why you did this leaves me cold. You couldn’t cope with his ‘needs’, despite actually seeking out a child who had them.

3 years.

3 years you kissed him and put him to sleep at night along with your other children

3 years you made beautiful videos which made you plenty of money and gained you a massive following.

3 years you used him and passed him on when his behaviour started to affect your picture perfect world.

As a special needs parent I cannot bear this story. I am sorry you couldn’t cope. I am sorry you feel bad for the online backlash you have received…

But most of all, I am sorry that you have made a very difficult young life even more difficult, in order to grow your ‘brand’.

I truly feel all your videos should be taken down and demonetised. This is a real life we are playing with.

Can you imagine growing up and being the child that the world watched being ‘saved’ then given away again because you were too much?

I can’t.

It’s not okay.

This has to be made an example of. There are so many women and men out there, desperate for the love a of a child, no matter how difficult their behaviour.

You are an example of everything that has done wrong with our new online industry of family bloggers and influencers, creating a picture perfect world which doesn’t actually exist.

Influencing millions.

It. Has. To. Stop.

Children are not accessories, your son was not a tool to get you to the top of your field and give away when the going got tough.

His journey of healing is just beginning, again.

Please remove all the videos you made of his journey with you and stop taking money.

#mykastauffer

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