Today, I got myself thinking – what is it that makes a good Dad?
And it occurred to me that, as women, we make choices based completely on the role model we grew up with…
Sometimes the role model was a warning – a harsh lesson on what not to repeat – on what never to subject innocent little hearts and bodies to.
And other times (if we are lucky), it is a position to aim for.
A pedestal to aspire to.
And so, we meet people as we go through our younger years and subsequently, we judge their qualities – based on what we know to be true.
Based on what we saw growing up.
So what I want to say today, on Father’s Day, is that, if you have been blessed with a child to nurture….
Consider that your every move, your every word, your every action – will become a template for their future.
For their babies.
It is a perpetual cycle and although you are in the grasp of the cycle you were born to, you can choose to be the one who changes it.
The one who stops the pattern.
So, if you are not living up to the future example you would like to see set – you need to rise – you need to up your game…
And if you are one who is setting the bar high – you need to show your weaknesses sometimes too…so that your children are not searching for a perfection that does not exist.
For really, all that matters is love, decency, understanding tolerance and support.
Everything else is a bonus or a deficit.
Ladies, pass it on.