Kate Spade left behind a 13 year old daughter. Anthony Bourdain left behind an 11 year old daughter and today, all I can think about is…what will happen to them?
Will they blame themselves? Will they grow up questioning their words, their actions, in the days before they left?
Or will they grow up angry. Angry that they were abandoned. Too scared to love anyone else?
And what bout their mental health? Will it suffer irreparably because of this huge shock and loss in their formative years?
I don’t know. I have no idea.
But I know that suicide is on the rise. I know that we are losing far too many people to this illness called depression. I know that it feels like an epidemic and I know, that unless we all act now, it will touch someone close to us very soon indeed.
It’s getting scary now people.
We all fear getting cancer, we all know someone who has it. The trouble with depression is, we don’t always know when someone sitting right next to us is suffering.
So, let us all open our eyes, read between the lines, learn to spot the signs and START TALKING.
Yes, someone suffering is highly likely to say ‘I am fine’ when questioned.
But you can see through that if you know what to look for…
HOW TO SPOT IT
Look for subtle changes, elation, tiredness, trouble concentrating, backing out of plans they made themselves, not answering messages for days at a time, reluctance to chat.
There are so many ways it can present itself – or worse, hide itself.
The best thing you can do is show up, ask questions, offer company – even just to sit there.
Tell stories of your own feelings and emotions.
Anything, anything is better than nothing.
SAMARITANS: Call 116 123 (UK)
(617) 247-0220, (800) 252-TEEN (Teenline), (877) 870-HOPE (State-wide) (USA)