I CAN’T FIX IT FOR YOU TODAY

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The hardest lesson I have had to learn as a parent, is not to fix all my child’s problems.

It is hard, so very hard.

To watch their little forlorn faces dealing with disappointment, fear, rejection worry or stress…

To watch them – and to comfort them – but to not try to make it alright!
It doesn’t really get much harder than that.

Some of you may be asking yourself why…why wouldn’t you fix things?

Because let’s face it, life is so much easier when you can deal;

When you can deal with the shock of things not going to plan.

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When you can deal with the loss of someone’s affection or attention.

When you can deal with not making the grade – or the team – or the scores.

Life is so much sweeter, so much kinder, when you can accept that it isn’t always fair.

That it won’t always be perfect.

That you won’t always win.

Someone once told me, that strength doesn’t come from the withstanding of the storm…it doesn’t come from being so tough, that you can fend off all the attacks on you.

It comes from being able to bend.

It comes from being able to go with the flow and let the storm lift you up, carry you.

If you wake up somewhere new, that’s okay. You can deal.

You learned to deal.

And it served you well.

So no, I won’t be fixing all of my babies’ problems. As hard as it is, I will carry on teaching them to deal.

And it will be the best thing I ever did.

 

I CAN’T FIX IT FOR YOU TODAY/ THE BEST THING I EVER DID WAS LEARN NOT TO FIX ALL MY CHILD’S PROBLEMS

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