WHEN SOMEONE IN YOUR LIFE HAS CANCER
Do not fall into the trap of believing you won’t have the right words, that you’ll say the wrong thing, that you won’t know the right way to behave…
Don’t convince yourself that ‘I will give them their privacy and be here if they need me’.
Just show up.
If they turn you away 9 times – show up a tenth.
If your offer of help is refused 9 times, offer it again.
If they say that they don’t need any help, find a way to bring some anyway.
Nobody wants to feel pitied, nobody wants to have everyone fussing around them but everyone, EVERYONE, deep down, needs to feel supported.
There are so many ways you can do that.
Drop food, take laundry, empty bins, run errands, collect kids, do homework, support family members who may need to vent.
You don’t even have to mention the C word unless that person wants to share. It’s the practical things you can deal with, things that will remove just a tiny part of their load and let them focus on the almighty fight they have to win.
If you do have an aptitude for inspiration and moral support then wonderful, do that. But whatever you are good at, whoever you are in this world, there is always something you can do that’s worthwhile, no matter how small or mediocre it may seem.
They say it takes a village to raise a child, well I believe it takes a village to kick cancer’s butt too.
Just show up.
You will be glad you did.