Don’t talk to her about her body…
unless it’s about how it works or how to look after it.
Don’t talk to her about how her body looks, even if you want to tell her she has an amazing figure, don’t.
Tell her she is strong instead.
And healthy. And witty. And funny.
Show her what her body can do for her. Point out when she is ‘glowing’ with happiness and health and when she looks in need of some rest and nutrition.
If she gains weight or loses weight, none of your business. It’s not even on the conversation table.
Instead, show her how great food can taste and much pleasure breaking bread with loved ones can bring.
Show her the joys in walking and dancing and being outside and swimming in cool water.
Teach her to love cake and to love kale.
Teach her to buy fresh and to drive-thru.
Pass down your recipes.
Pass down your passions.
Pass down your love of cooking, or eating, or walking or whatever it may be that’s positive.
Do NOT pass down your hang-ups, your insecurities or your fears around certain foods.
Do not pass down down your dislikes.
Do not withhold food, or bring guilt around food.
Do not encourage ‘diets’.
None of that will help her in the long run.
Teach her balance.
Teach her that she can eat beautifully one day and awfully the next, without affecting her self-esteem.
Teach her, that life deals you the same hand, regardless of your dress size.
that her body has been changing since the day she was born and that it will continue to do so for every day that she is alive –
and that’s really okay.
Ladies, Pass It On…