WHEN YOU ARE FRIENDS WITH A NARCISSIST
You are either completely and utterly unaware (yet), or you have had enough.
You see, being friends with a narcissist is a complete one-way street, there is little to no return, for a whole lot of hard work…
If you are not exhausted already, you will be soon.
The narcissistic friend…
Makes everything about her
Monopolises your time
Wears you down until you agree
Keeps you waiting
And wondering if you have somehow offended her
Comes back only when she needs something from you
Is unsupportive of any life or aspirations you may have, that do not include her.
And just when you get to the point of realisation, she does something adorable, and reels you right back in.
This is not accidental.
There are only two things you can do when you are in a narcissistic friendship: you can leave, cutting all ties (and I mean ALL ties).
Or you can stay and the cycle will play over and over again.
There is no in-between.
How do you tell if your friendship is really salvageable?
You tell her how YOU feel, and give her the chance to put it right. If she is horrified and apologetic, she is a keeper. Your friendship is worth working on.
If she makes it all about her – and how you have ‘hurt her feelings’, then you, my friend, need to get the heck out of there.
Save your energy for those who bring you sunshine. There is more than enough rain to water the grass.