WHY CLOSED FACEBOOK GROUPS ARE LIKE THE WILD WEST..

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We have all likely experienced the closed facebook group by now and chances are, like me, you have been aghast at what goes on within…

It’s as though the creator of The group is the sheriff, the admins are her officers and the rules of the land are made up on a daily basis with everyone having to comply or it’s ‘reach for your gun time’. ThIS GROUP AIN’T BIG ENOUGH FOR THE BOTH OF US…etc etc.

It normally starts off beautifully, with everyone posting questions and receiving great answers or compliments which compel them to exclaim “I love this group!’, “SO GLAD I FOUND YOU GUYS!”.

It is not long until the admins wade in with some rules about ‘what the topics we are allowed to post about are’ and someone (who has been an adult for sometime and doesn’t take very well to being told what to do or say), takes exception.

If you haven’t witnessed a ‘gate’, a ‘flounce’ or worse a ‘deletion of a disgruntled member’ then you have it all ahead of you yet. It will happen, trust me.

It all comes down to the fact that people feel anonymous within these groups because they are ‘closed’. Their friends cannot see what they are up to so they let themselves go a little bit…in some cases this would involve posting photos of themselves and receiving lots of compliments on their fashion choices – not something they would do on their normal timeline. Likewise, their responses to people who don’t say the right things go the same way. Out of character.

The freedom of being able to vent without judgement from ‘real life peers’ is intoxicating and some and things can get pretty ugly.

I am currently watching a group I have joined implode on a daily basis and I have to say it’s fascinating. Sad but mesmerising.

It was the BEST place to be for a few weeks with everyone cheerleading everyone and compliments and encouragement flying all over the show.
In come the admins with a few rules to follow (it’s their group after all) and bam, someone kicks off every hour of every day and it’s all tumbling to the ground.

The thing people don’t realise is that yes these groups are closed but everything – and I mean everything you do online, is all part of your online footprint. It is all completely and entirely traceable and accessible and one day, people who really do get ugly and really do attack, will be held accountable for their actions.

It is coming mark my words.

The internet is like The Wild West right now with everyone doing what they like but change is a ‘comin.

So, whatever you do online, be nice or if you can’t be nice at least be respectful. Or even better, stay quiet.

Imagine that person is stood right in front of you – now type your response.

Remember, the real beauty of these groups is that YOU CAN LEAVE AT ANY TIME IF YOU DON’T LIKE IT.
It is not real life.

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I considered opening such a group for us all to chat about life but recent events have put me off!

Let me hear your thoughts on this ladies!

Donna
WHY CLOSED FACEBOOK GROUPS ARE LIKE THE WILD WEST..

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