LIFE LESSONS TO PASS TO OUR TEENS
Sadly, we tend to learn the really good stuff the hard way in this life. If just one young person reads and digests any of this, it will be worth it…
IF IT’S TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE, IT IS
Trust your instincts, or if you have none at that moment, trust your parent’s instincts. We have all been down the ‘I just didn’t see it coming road’. That said, cynicism is a nasty habit but forewarned is forearmed. Open your mind and your ears when something seems just a little too easy and shiny. The best things take a bit of hard work and determination.
THE FIRST LOVE IS NOT THE DEEPEST
It feels like it at the time, but your first love is most likely just a practice run for your heart. Don’t get so wrapped up in it that you can’t see the big picture of your wonderful life ahead. Your soulmate comes at the right time. You will look back and see the difference.
YOU’RE NOT SUPPOSED TO KNOW
You may think you know it all, but you don’t. And you’re not supposed to. You’re supposed to be learning – every minute of every day. Living and learning and falling and flying. This is your time to dip your toe into the big wide world, keep your eyes peeled and your brain switched on. You can learn some pretty awesome stuff from the ‘elders’ you meet along the way. Don’t let arrogance keep you from hearing it all.
NOT EVERYONE CAN BE TRUSTED
Learning to spot them is hard, it takes practice, you will get it wrong – a lot. If you have an honest heart it’s really difficult to recognise someone who doesn’t. You need advice. Do a bit of digging, ask for some opinions – don’t give your trust away too readily. It has to be earned and the right people will understand that.
THIS TOO SHALL PASS
Time heals; give time, the time it needs, to do it’s work. Try to let go of the past or the things that hold you down and let time do the healing. It won’t always hurt this badly, you won’t always feel this scared or alone. Everything is temporary and this too, shall pass. Hang on in there with hope, and hold on to any little sparks of excitement, love or laughter you may find – they are your life-jackets on this choppy sea.
YOUR PARENTS ARE WAITING
One day you will realise that they have been waiting years and years for you to come back to them. Not physically necessarily, but emotionally. Your hormones and your emotions have been whirling around inside you, since the day you hit puberty, and they have been patiently sitting it out. Waiting on the day you are no longer humiliated or repulsed by their very presence. One day, when you have kids, this will hit you in the heart like a tonne of bricks.
Be kind, call them, visit and let them worry about you – it’s their job. It will be yours one day too.
Ladies, Pass It On…