WOMAN THY NAME IS ….. GUILT
If Guilt was an Olympic sport I would be a Gold Medalist several times over. Seriously, feeling guilty is my SuperPower – am I alone??
Today, so far I have felt guilty for saying no to something – saying yes to something and for not saying anything at all to something else.
I have felt guilty about eating something (chocolate for breakfast) and about not eating something (smoothie for breakfast which I not only didn’t drink but I also didn’t shop for or make.)
Today so far, I have also felt guilty about not talking enough time for myself (self-care, by the way, it’s new and everyone is doing it!) and for talking too much time for myself.
I have felt guilty about not going to the gym, again, (that’s three years on the trot now 😂) and about wanting to go to the gym and being vain enough to dream about a summer body all toned and golden…it’s so very superficial I should rise above it. #justanotherreasontofeelguilty
In my life I have managed to feel guilty about things that I have absolutely no involvement in whatsoever. I can spend endless hours in bed feeling guilty – Am I feeding my kids enough kale? Why don’t I know what kale is? Are the Icebergs melting? Is it my fault? What about sheep in the fields – are they ever too hot or too cold? Do they dream of a house? Should I be doing something to help sheep get houses?
I spend approximately 78% of my entire life feeling guilty about stuff and telling myself off for feeling guilty about stuff and then trying to find a mental balance between what I should feel guilty about and what I shouldn’t.
It’s like a full time job.
It’s exhausting.
If anyone has any advice on how to get rid of this joy-thief known as guilt, I would really appreciate it!
Answers on a postcard or even just below…⬇️⬇️⬇️
Today is my adopted daughter’s 48th birthday. I know who she is and where she lives. She has made contact with me two years ago and my heart was full. Then, she just stopped. Stopped acknowledging my messages, even the Happy Birthday I sent her this morning. I have carried the guilt of putting her up for adoption for 48 years. It won’t go away. People tell me, “you did the right thing”. But did I? Could I have fought my parents harder to keep my baby. Her father died in a car crash the month before she was born. I was so alone and broken(heartbroken too). Then I watched the social worker take her from my arms and walk away. I still feel the guilt of letting go of her. I gave her life and a good home. But that just doesn’t make the guilt go away and now she won’t even give me a thumbs up on my message. #hurtstomuch.
Thank you for this.
Ah Sharon that is an awfully difficult guilt to let go, I can’t even imagine that pain. But you must let it go, you deserve to feel the peace now, it wasn’t your fault and you can’t change it. I am sure she will come back to you, she will be dealing with her own demons perhaps? Thanks for sharing with us! Xxxx
I always feel guilty about something. It’s so silly how much we put ourselves down and feel over the tiniest things. I feel guilty if I haven’t do my list of to do even know I’ve been busy with other things! If only we could stop putting ourselves down!
i can do with some advice as well, so many times i find myself caught by this trap!
I hear you. I think the trick is to realise it’s one of life’s pointless emotions. It doesn’t achieve anything positive you so let it go 🙂
Feeling guilty is the worst feeling! I haven’t been to the gym in 3 weeks now, so feel like I am letting my body down!
I haven’t got any advice I’m afraid but I get it! I also feel guilty for having chocolate or ice cream for breakfast instead of cereal, or grabbing something unhealthy for snack instead of fruit!
Oh gosh, I feel ya! How is it we can constantly live like this? It’s exhausting and irrational, and yet every night I go to sleep and feel guilty about something or other!
I’m with you on this! Guilt finds me on a regular basis even when I really have no reason to feel guilty. Even today I felt guilty for 3 hours for concentrating on getting my dog passed a woman and her child (my dog is scared of children) and forgetting to thank them for moving for us as a result. I highly doubt they’re bothered by my lack of acknowledgement but I dwelled on it for our entire walk; I was almost tempted into running back and thanking them.
I know how you feel, I am always feeling guilty about one thing and another and it’s usually for not doing something. Not going to the gym, not eating healthily, not sleeping enough etc x