LET THEM GO,
You will be glad you did.
We have all done it. Put up with bullshit, accepted far too little, given way too much.
We have all told ourselves it will not last forever, it will get better, they will change.
We will change to make them change, but they never do.
We probably all understand what it’s like to feel invisible, walked on, used.
There comes a time when you have to realise it’s you, or them. That every day you let them bleed you dry is a day of our life you will never get back
Maybe some of us know the sweet yet bitter release of letting go. The relief of finally cutting the ties that bind our souls somehow, no matter how twisted they are those ties are strong.
The cutting is hard, it takes time, it takes strength but oh my it’s worth it in the end.
You see, it’s in the letting them go that freedom comes.
A space is made for life, love and laughter to filter in. And it does, it floods in. The way sun floods into a room when you open the shutters.
The poison dissipates from your oxygen and the air is beautifully fresh again. All yours for the breathing.
Let them go, it isn’t easy but you will be glad you did.
Likewise it may not be a person you need to let go but rather an ideal or a vision that just isn’t bringing anything good to your world. Do you have it in your mind that you should be ten pounds lighter for example? Are you constantly on a journey towards that vision but rarely getting there? Perhaps it’s time to reevaluate whether or not that aim is right for you. If it’s bringing you disappointment on a regular basis then maybe it’s time to let it go and wait to see what comes in once it leaves. You may well be surprised.
The bottom line is that, as a species, we instinctively attach ourselves to things; people, places, ideals. But actually, as we develop, it becomes clear that many of these attachments are toxic and unnecessary and that by letting them go we can change our worlds for the better. Try it.
For me, it was letting go of the concept of perfection. I realised I was expecting too much of myself on a daily basis and berating myself for every dropped ball. So, after reading something that inspired me I decided to work on letting that go and allowing myself to be lazy sometimes, make mistakes, not tick every box every day – that kind of thing. I have to say it’s made a huge difference to my life.
Let it go. It’s not easy but it makes your life easier once it’s done.