I’m raising a boy
In fact I’m raising two…
I am raising a boy to be a person. And a partner. And a father.
I am not raising a boy to be a man
or a doctor, lawyer or footballer.
Why not?
Because I think the path he takes in this life is secondary to everything else he will do. The people he will love and the family he will build.
His choice of career will find him I am sure of it, but in the meantime I am raising a
boy who…
knows how to express his emotions and work through them till they dissipate and leave him peaceful again
knows how to value others above himself
has respect for his elders and follows their lead
treats women as his equal in every way,
understands how he is a tiny part in a very big picture and that the world is not his responsibility but it is his care
works hard but never forgets how to play
cries without guilt or mockery
gives without condition or expectation
understands his true worth and accepts nothing less than that
feels empathy for the suffering of others
can see the value in every other human being regardless of class or society
knows how to accept love, give love, breed love and encourage love
can administer a magic kiss, sing a lullaby and mend a broken heart
I am a raising a boy, in fact I am raising two, who understand team-work and partnership and the beauty of a shared vision.
I am raising a boy to be a husband and a father.
The rest he will do himself.
I am raising a boy
By Donna Ashworth
Such a lovely post, I think it’s important to think about raising a nice person and not specifically what they’re going to achieve in later life x
Thank you Rhian! x
This is really beautiful! And it’s just so true, it’s important to focus on the most important things and let everything else fall into place! xx
Yay! Thank you Stephanie!
A lovely post to write. I totally agree. I have raised my children with no expectations, apart from values in life. I have never expected them to fulfil any level in terms of education or relationships. I am happy for them to be themselves, as long as they are safe, and well.
Me too Jen!
What a lovely posts/ I have a few pregnant friends who I think I’ll pass this on to once they find out they are defo having boys (we’re convinced but one is too early for gender and the other is keeping his legs crossed!!!)m
Hahah! Oh how exciting!
This is absolutely brilliant! As a boy Mum I find this so positive about how we are raising boys in the modern world x
Thank you Leandra!
I think you’re missing a trick by not raising at least one of them as a unicorn.
Lol Bob
Donna I love this post so much. I have 4 boys and I’m loving the positive approach and ideas here to help us bring up well rounded children in such a modern day world x
Yay Lynne!! 4 boys!!! You are amazing xx
You should be very proud of yourself for teaching him amazing values like the power of being respectful and being able to show emotion. Well done you x
Thank you Ana!
Such a lovely ost. It’s hard work raising children and you only want the best for them and to teach them right from wrong. He will be a fine young man for sure x
Oh I do hope so Kirsty! Thank you x
This is so lovely! I think you are absolutely right – he will find his career path and passions himself, but setting him up with the foundations of a kind heart, the ability to forgive and happiness is far more important in life. Lovely x
Ah that’s it exactly Amy, thank you! x