Are you a lover or a fighter when it comes to your body image? Would you consider yourself to be insecure, self-obsessed, super accepting or truly confident? Take the quiz below to see where you lie on the body-love spectrum and what you can do to steer yourself in a healthier direction….
1. It’s time to get up close and personal with your other half. Are you most likely to:
⭕️ Keep the lights on but steer them away from or cover up your wobbly bits or least favourite areas.
⭐️ Let yourself go entirely and enjoy every moment.
💢 Turn off the lights and pray it’s quick!
❌ Treat him/her to a sexy dance whilst you are at it.
2. You are eating out with friends when the waiter brings over the dessert menu, do you:
⭐️ Let yourself have a wee treat and maybe offer to share a dessert.
❌ Ermmm, yes please! Who doesn’t want dessert when they are out?!
⭕️ Remind yourself you’ll never be your ideal weight if you can’t cut out desserts.
💢 Tell Yourself you’re far too fat to be seen eating cake in public.
3. A friend tells you you’re looking thinner, are you most likely to:
⭐️ Feel complimented but immediately put it down to your all-black outfit and height!
💢 Feel uncomfortable and change the subject, you are definitely not thinner is she blind?
❌ Laugh and make a joke about two pairs of Spanx etc.
⭕️ Feel elated and want to know every detail of why she thinks you look thinner…
4. Your friend who happens to be a total babe keeps getting promoted and you don’t, do you:
⭕️ Feel envious of her perfect figure and looks which are surely helping her get ahead.
💢 Feel demoralised that if looks are an issue you will never get ahead.
⭐️ Think to yourself that she is worthy of the gig but her looks probably helped somehow which is just how the world works.
❌ Know that if it’s looks that are helping, you’ll be just fine, but be annoyed it’s an issue at all.
5. You can’t fit into a pair of jeans in your normal size, you really want them – do you:
❌ Automatically assume the sizes in this particular shop are made very small and grab the next one up.
💢 Put them back and leave, reminding yourself you hate this shop.
⭕️ Instantly feel deflated and start berating your inner self for eating too much recently – buy the jeans and vow to fit in them!
⭐️ Think to yourself you could do with looking after yourself a bit more and grab the next size up, your weight sometimes fluctuates but you don’t really monitor it.
6. Your friend never stops moaning about her big thighs but they are half the size of yours, do you:
⭐️ Try to get her talking about the real reasons behind her body issues and try to get her to see how perfect she is.
💢 Feel really put out of joint that she hasn’t noticed yours are bigger than hers.
❌ Show her how many other amazing, beautiful and successful women have thighs even larger than hers.
⭕️ Join in the moaning with her and get down to the details of how to slim them down.
7. You have been invited to an exclusive Pool Party at a local hotel. It’s summer, there is champagne and lots of fun things going on, do you:
⭕️ Consider saying yes but already have an exit excuse ready incase you are feeling too fat on the day. You’re googling kaftans and cover-ups as we speak.
❌ Thank your lucky stars you have great contacts – what a fab invitation!
⭐️ Say yes – sounds like a hoot! Time to go swimsuit shopping though and maybe get a tan…
💢 Absolutely no way are you parading in front of strangers in your bikini. Who even has pool parties anyway!?
Mostly ❌ : BODY BOLD
Congrats! You are one of the body confident gang, a very small minority estimated at around only 10%! You have a very strong identity and are simply comfortable with who you are. You feel confident in your personality, your talents and your flaws and and aren’t focused on your appearance at all except for practical reasons. Go forth and spread your example to others ladies – we need more of you around!
Mostly ⭐️ : BODY CONFIDENT
Overall you feel strong, happy, confident and healthy and rarely stumble over body hang-ups preferring to focus more on your health and fitness instead. You are in no way fixated over your appearance and see yourself as a whole lot more than a pretty face and a hot bod! Keep working on that to avoid the occasional moments of doubt that crop up every now and then. You got this!
Mostly ⭕️ : BODY AWARE
It is safe to say that you are pretty preoccupied with your body and looks and if you dig a little deeper you would see how much of an effect this has on all parts of your life – your successes and failures will be directly linked to how good you felt at the time. You spend a lot of time deconstructing yourself in front of a mirror and suffer frequently from ‘fat’ days and ‘ugly’ days. You could probably think of many social events or fun times which were affected by this. Start taking action now and change the negative radio station in your head to one of positivity and acceptance. Nobody is perfect no matter how you may think they are. Start seeing that and always apply the 20% rule when you look in the mirror – you look approximately 20% more attractive to others than you do to yourself! Try thinking of happy times when you were at your ideal weight and analyse to see if you were actually happy at all, or just felt accomplished. The two things are different.
Mostly 💢 : BODY BEWARE
You are body-obsessed and your life pretty much revolves around food, exercise and/or maintaining your weight/looks/youth. This can lead to very extreme mental health and psychological issues if you are not careful, perhaps you already understand a bit of what that’s like? Some women in this category have lost jobs, relationships and whole chunks of their life bowing down to body issues like this, and if you speak to one who is now in recovery you will feel the strength of their warnings.
Start reading some body acceptance books now and you will be on the path to a better, happier and more fulfilled existence! Here is an article with a few recommends to get started with. Good luck ladies. Remember – nobody has a perfect body – perfection is a myth – acceptance is a choice. YOU have the power to stop worrying and start living freely…