Today marks maternal Mental Health Awareness Day and so we are taking a minute to talk about all the struggling mums out there and the stigma that still seems to surround Post Natal Depression and indeed all Mental Health issues in general. It is high time this was addressed fully and openly so that no new mum need ever feel alone in her thoughts and fears again. PND is so very common and yet if you speak to anyone who went through it, they will tell you they felt dreadfully alone. On saying this, I do spy a sea-change on the horizon and more and more I hear people discussing their time on Anti-depressants and sharing their stories with the next generation of mums who may suffer the same way. This can only be a wonderful thing and I urge you all to do the same. If you suspect someone is struggling please reach out to them in any way you can, be it a text message here and there, dropping in to help clean up or even an offer of babysitting. If things seem beyond that point there are places to go for help. Details of this are below. In the meantime please share this poem and spread the love to all new mums or any mum who feels the strain. We have all been there at some point.
I see you there new Mummy, I recognise the smile
It’s stuck there like a mask and it has been there for a while
But underneath the grin I know you’re tired and you’re weary
You show the world your game face, never let them see you teary.
Your baby is your everything, no doubt about your care
But something isn’t right and you’re just terrified to share.
But if you did you’d find a world so full of Mums like you
Who sometimes cry and shake and often don’t know what to do.
It’s hard when nights are endless and screams ring round the walls
And yet you’re up at dawn to dry the tears and break the falls
Your thoughts are filled with fear and doubt and endless, aching worry
Your wishing all the days away and yet you fear the hurry.
Please know you’re not alone in this, in fact you’re with the crowd
It’s something that we all should learn to speak about, and loud!
There is no shame, no judgement, in taking time for you
In fact it is the best thing that a brand new Mum can do.
So hold your loved ones tight dear, help is on the way
It really is that easy, you only had to say
There’s other Mums around you, who’ll never let you fall
They’re there to tell their stories and guide you through it all…