Friendship is a wonderful thing, after all, where would we be without our girl pals to make us giggle till we want to wee and let us moan and vent when our other halves could only offer ‘solutions’.
Imagine a world where you couldn’t fire off a cryptic ‘in joke ‘text message and receive the answer you were expecting…
ME: “I’m so sick of this rain!”
BF: “So, you go to Acapulco, it’ll be fine!”
Consider, if you will, a life without drunken ‘I love you’ slurry cuddles outside a club where the music was too loud and everyone was too young but none of that matters because your girls are there and you’ve laughed like hyenas at basically, well, everything!
Yes it’s true to say our friends are a blessing and completely integral to our happiness but as we get older friendships, like everything else, change.
Marriage and kids bring the biggest changes in my opinion – whether it’s you or your friend doing the marrying and procreating.
When your day needs at least another three hours added into it in order to complete the list of tasks expected of you and you are moving through things so swiftly that you fear you’ll break the sound barrier whether at work or at home, it can be really hard to prioritise the friendships that were once the most important part of your day. Major issues arise if your friend doesn’t have the same time demands and keeps inviting you to join in with her off-the-cuff social life when you are literally dreaming of pyjamas and staring vacantly at the TV for five minutes before passing out.
Have you found that your friendships have waned over the years due to the lack of time and attention you can spare? Some may say that this not a life or death situation but actually, research has shown that people who had no friends increased their risk of death over a 6-month period. In another study, those who had the most friends over a 9-year period cut their risk of death by more than 60%!
Friends are also helping us live better. The famed Nurses’ Health Study from Harvard Medical School found that if we have more friends as we get older we are less likely to suffer ill health and far more likely to be ‘happy’. The conclusion was that NOT having enough friends could be as bad for you as smoking or obesity!
Serious stuff ladies and we need YOU!
I would love to feature some of you girls and your friends over the next few weeks to really take a look at how friendships work (or perhaps don’t) as we travel through life.
Are you a great example of friends who have surfed the waves and stayed afloat? Have you found your friendships transferring to those who somehow fit in more conveniently with your altered lifestyle?
Have you always considered yourself a brilliant friend to have or do you constantly worry you’re underachieving?
We would love to hear from you and write about your friendships, what makes them special and how they have changed over the years.
email firstname.lastname@example.org with your thoughts and some lovely snaps of you and your girls or find us on facebook to take part.