What is it and do you need it?
I am always excited to meet interesting women and a few months ago I was introduced to the gorgeous Helen Nachintu at a Ladies Lunch. Helen happened to mention her partner’s self-improvement programme she was helping to manage, and as a lover of all things ‘self-helpy’ I was instantly intrigued!
The title of Adrian’s method is Subconscious Surgery and apparently it’s the way forward! Forget facelifts and tummy tucks – this is the kind of surgery that will make us all happier, healthier, wealthier and wiser! I have not undertaken this treatment myself but it sounds extremely intriguing I am sure you will agree.
Helen kindly offered to interview Adrian so we could find out more about Subconscious Surgery and what it is exactly – and even better – get some help on a very timely subject…relationships! With the coming of Valentines Day it seems like a good opportunity to learn about Adrian’s tailored programme designed to create harmony, companionship and understanding – The Couples Harmonisation Programme!
Over to you Helen…
What exactly is the Couples Harmonisation Online Training Programme ?
It is a cleverly designed set of tools, techniques and processes which help couples overcome disputes and challenges within a relationship. If one, or both of you, are having particular issue or feel like you’ve hit a brick wall and don’t know how to move forward, then the Couple’s Harmonisation programme is something that you should probably consider.
The programme helps to facilitate the harmonisation process and gives couples a clear defined route, which is fair, equitable, and gets down to the truth. One of the most important things in any relationship is finding out the truth. The process gets rid of the unnecessary details, over-bearing opinions and heightened emotions, which we often experience during arguments.
I’m sure that this is going to resonate with quite a number of people out there, as I don’t think there are many couples that don’t have any issues in their relationships, no matter how in love they are.
Where did the idea come from?
Well… I was having a few challenges in our relationship. I’ve been doing lots of personal development on myself and changing patterns of behaviour which have been with me for many, many, years. Especially things like allowing people to bully me. I was always bullied at school and later on in life I still got bullied simply for being me. The girls I dated were often called ginger-lovers etc…you get the point.
As a spiritual person I kind of ignored it and let it go, but all it did was create more of the same. So, over the last couple of years I decided that I wasn’t going to take that anymore. I’ve really been making a lot of decisions based on what I want and don’t want out of life. This also applied to my relationship. There were behaviours that my amazing, beautiful, and wonderful girlfriend was acting out, which I considered as deal-breakers for me.
We’d got to a position where it was very difficult to communicate. We all know that everything happens for a reason, and obviously I was put through that experience, for me to have this idea, which has enabled me to use my 25 years of experience and knowledge of looking at human psychology, human behaviour and behavioural patterns.
To explain this further, unknowingly, most of us have a habit of carrying around old experiences then projecting them into our current and future relationships. I could see exactly what was happening in our relationship. Not only my contribution, but Helen’s contribution as well. I wanted to come up with a very fair, and equitable way of resolving our issues, whereby we could sit down and go through a process that would take opinions out of the way. This process involves muscle testing and psycho kinesiology. This is a technique I use everyday with my clients to help them overcome deep and powerful emotional blocks they’ve acquired in all areas of their lives.
I thought, well why don’t I apply all the knowledge and skills I have to our relationship? I thought, just imagine what would happen if I could create a step-by-step process which takes people through a more harmonious way of resolving their issues, and helps them create more understanding. How many people out there would absolutely love that? So I decided to have chat with Helen about it. After all, as well as being my girlfriend, she is also my Managing Director. I explained to Helen the reasons why I wanted to do this. Helen is a very enlightened soul, but even the most enlightened souls do have old programming within them, which causes havoc in the background. By the way, this applies to both of us. Consider it as more of an introspective look into yourself as well as an opportunity to highlight things you feel your partner may also benefit from.
What sort of person, or couples, are you aiming this online training at?
Well I guess I am aiming this towards couples who are really 100% committed and deadly serious about resolving issues within their relationships. I am looking for couples that are passionately in love, but frustrated with how things are.
They must have a genuine desire to learn about themselves. This isn’t an ego thing. The programme gives you the ability to prove yourself right and prove the other person wrong, but by the same token, you have to be open and willing to be wrong yourself – because you won’t be able to hide anything.
This programme will expose the root cause of your issues. It’s also going to do that in a very safe way. We create an environment with rules, by which you both abide. This is designed to eliminate the reactionary ego. The programme only highlights and deals with facts and at the end of the day, you’ve really got to be able to face your own BS, and have a really good laugh about it too.
It’s interesting that you mentioned some rules around this programme, can you explain?
For the first half of the whole programme itself, we will sit you down as a couple and go through the agreement step by step. I will talk you through it, I will tell you why we are putting certain clauses in the agreement, why they are important, and why you should make not only a verbal, but also a written agreement to abide by these rules. This is to protect both of you from a situation that could spiral out of control, because the biggest killer in any dispute resolution is emotion.
Anger and frustration, annoyance and bitterness, are all feelings we need to address right from the offset and recognise the fact that they may occur. The programme will definitely tweak some emotional strings, and this will at times be quite challenging, so we need to be in a place where we can give each other compassion, as well as the time and space to grow. By primarily spelling out to you what could possibly happen during the process, when and if it does happen, you will be fully equipped to know what to do, so that you don’t lose control whilst you are resolving your issues.
I do feel that the agreement is probably the single most important thing about the whole exercise, because if you don’t go into this exercise with the right intention from the beginning, then it will all go downhill from there.
What can couples expect to get out of this?
I expect couples to get exactly what I was expecting to get from developing the exercise. An ability to be closer, an ability to understand my partner, to better develop the areas of the relationship which I felt were missing for me and also for her.
We all need certain things to maintain our sanity. Sometimes we only see things from our own perspective, in terms of what we want, and sometimes it’s difficult to see things from the other person’s perspective. If you think your needs are more important than your partner’s, well then you’re in the wrong relationship. In fact, you probably shouldn’t be in a relationship, because at the end of the day, a relationship is all about equality. Both of your opinions should matter. All opinions do matter. The Challenge is communicating that, and allowing each other the space to be able to understand it.
The ultimate aim is that couples will get to the end of the training programme and find that their relationship is so much more loving, passionate, understanding, and harmonised. They will also be fully equipped with a great set of tools and techniques which they can refer to time and time again.
So ladies, there you have it! Do you think your relationship could benefit from some Subconscious Surgery? If you would like a FREE online Skype Consultation with the Subconscious Surgeon, then send an email to: [email protected] and quote Ladies Pass it On.